| hey guys,
This is a big wall of text explaining my situation. Just read the last part if too long. english is not my first language so feel free to ask questions. I just started to read pua stuff like one month before metting her. So im a noob.
So, I met this HB9 at work 3 month ago. I quit the job two week ago. At the beginning, the only time I was able to talk to her was lunch time with 6 others colleagues. We were joking around but thats it. She was really getting hitting on at work blatantly by a lot of guys. So my strategy was to show active disinterest and to be the price. (really hard for me to get this attitude...)
And then, we started to walk together to our cars after the job like 3 times a week. Quick 10 minutes of teasing, fluffing. At that time, i noticed she was being attracted,was laughing easily, kinoing me even putting her hand on my leg, saying she like how i was quick on the draw etc... So I decided to make a move on a girl for the first time of my life.
A day at the job when we were alone I asked her if she wanted to play some minigolf sometimes, I was fucking nervous (childish and afc i know.). But still she was really excited and up to it.
I didnt fix a date or anything... bleh. The date didnt happen. I asked her on the walk after work on a friday for the same night... Of course, she was busy. I was really nervous. It was awkward.
I asked when a colleague was walking with us at the last minute before leaving each other. lol (0 discretion)
So she started to be cold, no more kino, wasnt walking with me after work, conversations were sucky, etc.. I said fuck it and continued to have fun with the other people and girls at work.
Pretending to be unaffected. Gaming one girl outside of work to get her out of my head (fucking one-itis, still have it btw.)
Then, two weeks before i quit. She started to play some push-pull or some shits. Maybe I am overthinking this. But she was sending mixed signals. Some days, she was kinoing me,
laughing a lot, we were flirting a lot, seems really attracted. Other days, acting cold, droping me on our morning break to stay with another guy (Asshole #1) .. I was staying unreactive and continue
to do my things and didnt push it further with her. Inside of me i was really asking me what was going on. If I look back at this, I was a dancing monkey only doing attraction and teasing. Spike spike spike..
Last day at work, we were walking back and she asked my number saying she was going to call me to plan the meet up. We were already planning to go out the next day with the rest of the working crew.
I wanted to take her number instead of her taking mine, So i can get the lead. No cellphone on me.. no pens. She never called, but she texts a colleague and showed up at the club.
At the club, we were only two from work (her and I)(Except for Asshole #1 who told me he was coming only to get to her appartment, he stayed 15 minutes.)
Generally speaking we had a great time, she met my friends. I met her best friend. Her best friend was shooting me shit test like are you a nice guy? I was kino escalating.
Touching her legs, hair, legs, back, nearly no resistance. She told me once to back off with a laugh when I touch her stomach.. But still I was doing too much attract, no comfort (This is my sticking point)
At the end of the night, She asked me I needed a lift back home. I said sure. We left together but her brother was in the club (wtf) and he was leaving with us. His brother is reading pua stuff.
Talking about shit test and shit in the car.. I didnt say a word. So, She bring me back home, two kiss and good bye. No kiss close. Texted her the same night a thanks and a goodnight. she text back
the same thing.
So now I am not working with her anymore, four days later, I asked her by text to tag alone to help me buying a new watch on the next day. She was busy, and asked me if I was going out on the weekend.
she told me to contact her. I did and and suggest her by TEXT to come with some of my friends to a club on a friday night. She was tired and prefer to watch true blood...
The week later, yesterday I invited a lot of people from the job including her to my house for a BBQ. We had a lot of fun. At this point I am not sure how she is interested in me. Is she playing games or im overthinking?
So i tought she was being flakey because I was always on attraction and never on comfort.
Today, I texted her a bit at noon to prepare my call on the evening to build some comfort like meehow suggest on his ebook. She nearly always respond to my text and get in my hoops. But I always text her first. On the evening I called her once, she didnt respond, i didnt push it further. Dont want to act desperate. She is flaky, and already told me that to me.
So now what should i do, be persistent and try to call her in the next week to build some comfort so she wont flake me when i will ask her? Getting over her? ( Already on a one-itis, i think a lot about her).
Building comfort over text? (shitty imo) Maybe I am being a pussy and should just call her and see if it works and if not next? Need advise guys. Tell me the real thing.
Thanks in advance.
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