So last night I was at the bar and i was feeling kind of tired not really wanting to go out in the first place. However at the bar some HB9 who went to my high school, whom I have never talked to (she is a year younger) came up to me
(keep in mind it was really loud in this bar so we were kind of yelling into each others ear)
Her: How did you get in here?
Me: What do you mean?
Her: Your not 19
Me: your right I am actually 20.
short pause
Me: I recognize you though. You went to *My High School*
She nods
Me: What's your name? (which I already knew)
Her: *Introduces self and shakes hand*
Me: Do you know my name? (when I am also positive she does)
Her: No
Me: *Introduce myself*
Then she smiled and just left like right after
I am pretty sure she knows I am older then her because my high school was not that big and she definitely recognized me if she came up to me like that. I'm just not sure if she was into me or what because the conversation happened fast and she just kind of walked away. I know I could have handled this better but I didnt expect her to just walk away that fast. Any suggestions on what to do if I run into her again/what could I have done to make her stay and not leave so fast.

I think asking her if she knows your name is a bit DLV, slight case of confirmation seeking. Also, it opens up for the kind of answer that you actually got, which is a sure backfire. Instead, I guess, lead the discussion by saying "I bet you don't know my name", which is most likely to lead to you being right (when she says that no, she does not know your name) or her qualifying herself ("yes I do, why don't you think I know your name blah blah").

...that is if you're gonna keep the names discussion up at all. I'd prefer leaving it up to her to ask for your name ( for the case that she, after all, doesn't know it) and just change the subject, thus dominating your exchange.

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I completely agree with you in the aspect of wait for her to ask for names however I am almost positive that she knows of me (well I am since she came up to me) and I knew of her because we went to the same high school. So I wanted to get the introduction out of the way because its weird knowing her name without being properly introduced. Should I have said that I already knew her name? I felt that would have sounded creepy so I wanted to pretend to recognize her but not fully know who she is. Also I agree that it was a bit weak to ask if she knew my name but I was curious to see if she would say yes. I'm still kind of confused though of what her intentions were? Do you think I lost her interest that quickly?

Also if I run into her at the bar in the future (which there is probably a high chance of) should I bring up anything about our first encounter? Should I approach her or should I see if she will come up to me again?

Too much thinking going on here gentlemen.

Instead of "bet you don't know my name etc etc etc say "well my name is so and so! how have you been? what have you been up to this summer.?..wow thats interesting I have been up to..." Next thing you know you will be in what sociologists call a "conversation"

Please don't get into the habit of making complicated shapes out of straight lines.

i know I am new here and all but could this fit?

she did want to talk to you longer but she expected that you would remember her and when you asked her name she felt blown out of the water. Thats why she said she didn't know your name either. taking it as a neg (way to early, for a one set) and being punished for approching you she left to find someone that didn't make her feel that way.

Yea I'll admit that I definitely over-thought this situation it just kind of rattled me that she would come up to talk then leave like 2 minutes later. That could be the case that she got upset that I didnt know her name, however I did point out that I recognized her.

On another note though whats done is done, I was just curious how I should play out our next encounter?

1. Some thoughts on your situation.
2. A technique for remembering names.

1.
You don't need a grand strategy here...keep it simple
People forget other peoples' names all the time...it is perfectly acceptable to say "Sorry what's you're name again?....Oh! Hi X I'm Y" without losing face.

Next time you see her just say "Hi X how have you been? Anything new?" Or something along those lines and then take it from there.

Remember you are just having a casual conversation at a party, its not a game of mind chess.....again, keep it simple.

2.
I'll give you a tip for remembering the names of new people you meet....
When you meet someone new and they say Hi I'm Z...you immediately in your head think of someone famous with that same name

"Hi I'm Kate" Straight away picture that girl standing next to Kate Perry or Kate Moss or any famous Kate of you choice. This technique will help the name stick.

Good luck.

When it comes to your next random encounter with this girl, don't bring the last encounter up more than briefly as in "how have you been since last time" (if at all). The problem with bringing it up is that you'll incorporate the problems that you see in the last encounter in your frame. Instead, your frame should be that there was nothing weird with last time, so it's not worth mentioning.

You could casually acknowledge her presence with a smile and a nod and see if she approaches you, and if not, you can approach her a bit later. Don't make a big deal out of it, or it will show.

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