Brace yourself,

First off, you've been in a relationship for 3 months dude, you're not in love. Please tell me you guys arent saying that to each other. I'm willing to bet you're 16-17.

Secondly, beating off should have nothing to do if you cant finish with this girl, unless you rubbed one out in the bathroom five minutes before you decided to have sex with her.

Which leads me to my final point: you're not into this girl, I mean if you're fantasizing about some girl that doesnt exist, and imagining a scenario that you only see in a porn movie, it's just not in the cards man, you're going to end up pressuring and pressuring her to do things that get you off, and you're going to make her feel insecure.You said she doesnt even "do it to you" in the first place, so this is all a foregone conclusion. I sure wouldnt want to be in a relationship with a girl where I have to pretend shes somebody else.


Final thought: Girls are very perceptive. They can read guys pretty well. Either you should appreciate her for who she is, and enjoy having sex or whatever with HER, or you are WASTING YOUR TIME.

Cheers mate

-MARLOW

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"Who the f**k is Fanning?"

She's only recently become sexually active. It's your job to *gently* guide her and explore with her. I know it can be frustrating, but look it as an opportunity rather than a problem. She will become more comfortable with things over time... most importantly, make her feel comfortable and secure. Try kissing her all over, and *eventually* giving oral sex to her. If this is pleasurable for her then she may decide to return the favour.

As for your fantasies, they're normal. You're not even thinking of another specific woman. I wouldn't tell her about them - the fantasies are probably playing on your mind because she doesn't like oral and you, I imagine, do - but she may just surprise you one day with what she does to you with her mouth.

masturbation is stopping you from coming?

you don't masturbate lying down do you?

http://www.healthystrokes.com/

luckily I gave that shit up when I was 14 ...

A few things...

1. Masturbating totally effects your ability to get off - especially in a relationship. I admit that there have been MANY times in my life when I have kept an at-least-once-a-day regimen.

And I can speak from experience that if I stopped masturbating for a day or two, I'd come easier and, seemingly, heavier.

2. No matter what, you are going to be prone to fantasize about other women while you fuck a girl. I'm in an open relationship with my girl of 9yrs, and I've found myself fantasizing about my gf while fucking an MLTR!

The reason we do this is because, when in a gf or mltr relationship, we lose what makes it so exciting for us - the pick up!! When you become used to a girl's presence, you forget that she is a different person who chose to be with you. She is little more than your hand and rub magazine or porn site.

First - don't feel too badly about your fantasies. They are natural and guilt just makes you these tendencies stronger and more dysfunctional.

Second - try reseting your perspective. For a minute, remind yourself that 6 months ago, this girl wasn't in your life at all.


And as for the oral sex thing, my experience is that issues with oral = issues with cock = issues with men. As always, get her in her comfort zone. Explore each other's bodies...