So this is gonna sound really really fucked up but just read it all and let me know what I should do.. Cuz I am really confused.

This girl adds me on myspace about 3 months ago.. i send her a message cuz shes a 10.. we start talking... she gives me her number.. we start texting/talking on the phone all the time. She tells me she wants to come out and see me but shes really nervous..

She lives 3 hours away in showlow, she works monday through friday, and shes supposed to be moving to california in december.

Well its now been 3 months and she still hasnt come out to see me. We have gotten into numerous fights. She says she loves me, and in all honesty I could see myself loving her but I am just not sure. She has never put any effort into coming to see me. Well I gave her an ultimatum this last weekend that if she didnt come out to see me that I was moving on.. didn't work.. She never came down.. But she called me crying saying she didnt want me to move on and that she was sorry for wasting my time so far and for being to scared to see me and meet me. I dont know what to do. I could see myself getting heavily involved... but i just dont know if i should give a shit anymore?

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internet world aint real world--she has never met you is that right

you shouldnt have made that ultimatum

she shouldnt be crying on the phone over a guy she hasnt met

she should have the ability to say--no im not going 3 hours to meet a guy i dont know--and don't trust anything could happen to me

this is just me but personally i think all the internet dating and facebook flirting is a load of crap that is more timewasting by people who are afraid to go meet and talk to REAL human beings not some picture that was taken 15 years ago before they were obesse

I would agree.. I think its extremely stupid too.. I am not much into the whole internet dating. But she added me over myspace and I was just like ok whatever ill go with it. But yes its an extremely weird situation. I dont think I should have given the ultimatum.. She has told me where she works, would it be weird if I surprised her at work one day this week with some flowers or something? Idk just to see her.. otherwise im just gonna ditch it and move on..

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OH for Fuck SAKE DO NOT GO ANYWHERE NEAR HER workplace with flowers or anything else dont even be within 5 blocks of it or your gonna be labeled a weirdo stalker creeper--thats not a judgment on my part---ITS just what theyve been socially programmed to think and every girlie mag in the world is telling them---DONT GO THERE

look just dont do anything--forget about all this internet dating crap,youll meet enough weirdos lying about themselves in the real world dont jump into the lions den.

go talk to a real woman that lives near you and that you are attracted too--theres plenty of em right---facebook is only for talking to people you have already met in the flesh--anything else with it is nut-country

Yeah i have just been trying to figure out what to do.. cuz when i start ignoring her she calls me and texts me more.. I can be the biggest ass hole in the world and she still calls and texts me a shit ton.. and I have been going out and meeting girls but no luck cuz i have had this girl in the back of my mind... 12 rule i guess.. haha.. but you all are right.. and thats kinda what i needed/wanted to hear!

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married woman in my home town was pickin up guys on the net when her hubby was was a way for work reasons---she was late 30s liked guys around 26---she met one guy on the net too many--they went to dinner, flirted ,she paid for a hotel room and juring the night the young internet stud chopped her up in the bathtub.

but that didnt influnce my opinion--i always thought internet way was weird and sad waste of time

wow ok thats fucking nuts. creeepy in fact!

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This post made me laugh

Take Herne's advice. Freeze her out. It's not a routine this time. You're doing it for your and her sake. Let her move on with her life.

I really don't want to give you an otherwise but I feel obligated to cuz that's what you were here for. She needs to trust you. Help her trust you. See this situation through her eyes. I recommend webcam chat or something. Show her that your life is real. If she still doesn't come tell her you met someone else and let her down easy.

And don't fucking do the flowers thing . It's hilarious though .

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hahaha yah. I have tried to SPAM her and everything. She says her computer is wacked. IDK! I try freezing her out and she just doesnt leave me alone till i give in. She said she wanted me to come up to showlow this weekend to go to the river with her and her friend. But i am sure she will make some excuse as to why i shouldnt come up or some shit. Idk. I am gonna try and get it sorted out by this weekend or just move on.

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and she knows my life is real cuz i live with my mom and my lil brother ever since my dad passed.. and she has talked to both of them.. so theres no bullshit excuses about me being some freak

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Do you know the pictures of her on myspace are really her?

She's got social issues. Make the effort to go meet her if she's offering, but be prepared to have something else to do that day.

I've known quite a few girls like this - social issues. Bad past. Really attached really fast, but then too scared to go out much.

Don't stress too much over her. Let her talk to you, maybe with enough comfort she'll come out, and maybe it'll be worth it. Just don't count on it, and do other things in the mean time.

I know the pictures are real for two reasons. she has a shit ton of them.. and cuz she has sent me picture messages on her phone.

and conker i kinda agree.. but its frustrating when she goes over to her friends house and they go to a party and get smashed with a bunch of people while shes too lame duck to just come down and see me, and she kinda dropped a bomb today and told me that she was moving to cali early at the end of august but she wanted to keep talking and she wants me to think about moving to cali with her, and im just like wtf is wrong with you.. your saying all this shit, talking a big game, but u havent even come to see me yet. I told her I was like not gonna happen. I would think about it if we had been seriously dating for 3 months and seen each other a ton, but with the current situation i will probably start seeing other people when you leave

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Well I found out some interesting shit today.. I called her work cuz she said she was at work all day, and guess what her work has never heard of her hahaha. They dont have an employee by her name.. funny shit. I am peacing out of this one quickly!

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