Guys,

Seriously, I need help. Though, I am quite good looking but I don't have style, I guess. I started reading Neil's book - Stylelife challenge. Though, I reached only 2 chapter, but I got a date not due to approaching or following style's technique but due to online gaming. I met this HB6 over a dating site. I started DHVing and being funny. She started chatting with me for a couple of days and we exchaged email ids. She finally decided to go out with me after 29 emails. Can you believe that? So, gave me her number and we decided to go for a movie. I called her after office on friday and told her that I will get the tickets online as we might not get the tickets in the theater. She agreed. I got the ticket but I FU big time by reaching the movie theatre late by about 20 mins. Shit. She was still waiting for me. We went inside but could not get the seats. I could feel the anger. So, we decided to grab a bite to eat. We went to a restaurant nearby. I started DHVing by using Cube but I could feel the angry vibes. I knew, what have I done. I believe she was into me. So, I started talking and tried to keep the conversation going by following Style's principle. She didn't participate that much. But I didn't lose my cool. I paid the bill in the end and offered her to walk to her car. I also asked if she would want to see the next show. She said she is tired. So, I walked and once she was near her car. I gave her a hug and said bye. I didn't even look back where she went. Because I know, how she felt waiting for me. Reason I was late is because I came back from office late and also, I thot of fixing my car a little bit before going for the date. I just thought of sharing my story. I think, moral of the story is to keep the promises you make to other people. I haven't been to many dates. In fact, i have been to 5 dates so far including this one. I am 30 and still a virgin. I think, I have a long way to go. I will complete the stylelife challenge book for sure. No matter what. Though, I won the challenge of stylelife . Any advice for me guys?

1. Taking a girl out to a movie for the first date isn't a good idea. ESPECIALLY if this is
a girl you haven't even met up until that point.

2. Showing up 20 minutes late? That really does just show her that you're disorganized, can't manage your time, and are possibly not that into her.

3. You bought her ticket too? Why? Do you plan on paying for everything with this girl?

3.a. Girls like guys who are spontaneous. What you did was the exact opposite. IF I were to take a girl on the first date to a movie (which I wouldn't), I would say "lets meet up there". I would have no idea what movie to watch. But once we get there, I'd check out the movies and see which played soon and then watch that one.

4. Once again...you paid for her meal??? Why?

Did you at least call her before the movie to tell her that you'd be late?

I mean 20 minutes late is bad, especially on a first date.

Have anyone had such bad days? Just out of curiosity. Do you think, I will improve, if I go on more dates?

Also, can chicks be pulled from night clubs? They don't even talk there. That is crazy. Any advice.

First off--Of course you'll improve! But it takes work and the right atitude. I sense you might want to look into some inner-game stuff and get some of David DeAngelo's "cocky and funny" like "Double Your Dating" if you're more interested in conventionally dating.. This will build your confidence and also go onto YouTube and watch DeAngelo (aka Sisonpyh) and his guest speakers (including Strauss) taped at his seminars as they cover the principles of both inner-game and the many different facets of PU. I actually bought Neal's Style-Life Challenge without fulling knowing what it is and entails and stopped at Day 2 because it seems like it can be:

a.) extremely valuable, or at least interesting, to novice and PUA alike as it encompasses more than just pick-up and seems like it is designed to get one thinking in a different way

b.) a giant pain-in-the-ass to actually carry out while working and living day-to-day

Secondly, nothing pisses off the woman you're interested in more than someone who is unreliable. Regardless whether you're looking for hook-ups or a serious relationships--or something in between--doing stuff like showing up late makes you look inconsiderate and even flaky. Especially in the age of cell phones where you possibly could have recovered by calling and changing plans. One of the things that DeAngelo did for me was that he broadened my horizons as to what a "date" is, and that you don't have to go to the movies, take her to dinner, hang out at the malt shop, etc. to have a date.

A date could be just meeting her somewhere randomly to shop for new shoes, a trip to the park to go jogging, or para-gliding over the Pacific, or going to look at potential pets. Personally, I like the idea of just meeting for coffee or maybe lunch, then escalating things from there before I'd start buying her dinners and paying for everything. And WTF do you mean that "women don't even talk (at clubs)"? They do if you do. But not if you're projecting a bad vibe and I personally can see a huge difference in my interactions with people based on my mood. But women won't talk if you won't or can't hold a decent conversation.

You might also want to get into the places that women hang out other than just online and forcing yourself into conversations with them while not giving a fuck about the outcome and looking at things like it's just one giant videogame with a reset button. In fact, you should even talk to men to practice being social and to get experience for the day you need to disarm the obstacle. Go into a bar and just try to talk to anyone you can with short conversation starters so you become more fluent and concentrate on being more outwardly social and getting out of your head...