So yesterday while I was at university I somehow managed to number close a hb9, (very close to hb10), i had her laughing, playfully teased her and all but then things kinda died down cos we were in class and it's hard to talk in there but I still managed to number close. I'm worried I may not have created enough attraction.

Anyways, I need help with a good opener for when I text her but I can't seem to come up with anything that will male her remember me.

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Hey dude, sorry if I'm late on this but you said you had good banter and teased her. Well, my first text would be something that would make her remember the banter and re-create the same feelings of fun she had, so if you gave her a nickname, made a comment about her or anything that directly relates to her, I'd make sure to mention that in the text.

Sorry, if I'm late on this, but that would be the best way to go (in my opinion).

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Don't text. Call.

Hey man, What I've learned about follow up game is that 1. it is an extremely important and challenging part of game but it must be done efficiently and effectively. I've found the best way to follow up with girls is via text For several reasons. 1. It allows her to respond when its convenient for her. 2. There is a higher chance she will respond at all, opposed to lets say a VM that you left her. 3. It gives you time to plan out your repsonse. 4. It's less akward. 5. Girls just like to text more. Anyhow you should have started texting right after the verbal interaction ended. You could have even starting texting her in class with something like, "man did you see this wierd girl next to me who wouldn't stop talking to me? or some variation of that. Obviously you did not do that. A good follow up text might be, I think I just saw your twin at xyz location, was that your twin or are you following me? I have gotten some good responses with that.

Happy hunting,
PUAddict

Hey dude, I used to have the same trouble, where I could number close but once I started texting, the rapport I'd built with her just used to fade away. Check out these awesome texting tips I used to master phone game. Enjoy


Texting Tip #1 "The Take Away - Creating Doubt"

You see, women (especially good looking ones) tend to only want a man
when they lose control of the relationship. In other words, they
don't go for men they are certain they can have.  Creating doubt in
her mind that you can't be together will amplify her attraction
towards you.  You do this by being able to remove yourself from the
situation and set up boundaries to where she gets doubtful that she
can have you.  

Most importantly this tip makes you a qualifier and that is the best
place you can be in a relationship.

Here are a few text message examples of creating doubt:

-"You don't like _________, I don't think this is going to work
  out"  Example: "You don't like ice cream, I don't think this is
  going to work out"

-"You seem like a cool girl but you're just not my type"

-"I don't think you can handle me"

-"This isn't working out, lets just be friends."

-"You're just not what I had in mind"

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#2. Let Her Feel Your Confidence Through Texting.



If she says you're good at something just continue and say,
Thanks, I'm glad you noticed. Or Yea, I'm good at everything I
do.  Or you could play it on a more humble side, Yea I get that a
lot.  Just make sure you own it.  She is actually testing you to
see if you can be confident in yourself, never say, No I'm not,
just luck. You will lose the second you say this and she will lose
interest.


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#3. Build Rapport And Connection.  



Relate about something that you both do or text her something that
you both experienced together.  Here's a text conversation with a
girl I met dancing and how I created a connection, Hey I'm trying
to find a girl that is 5 foot 6 and likes to fall on her face while
dancing.  You know her? Her response, Ha Ha Ha, thanks for the
reminder. I helped her up after she tripped onto her face and I
used that in the text and it worked great.  If you can, try to text
something that relates to a connection you have in the real world.  


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#4. What do you do if a woman is trying to get something out of
you?  



If she wants you to do something for her I keep it simple and call
her out and say, "You're just here to use me."  It almost always
works if you call a woman out on something she is trying to get
away with - especially the good-looking women.  If she asks for
something, and you know she's trying to milk it with her looks,
I'll approach it tactfully and say something like, "I would, but
you're not cute enough to get that from me."  It seems mean,
but those kind of women love it because no guy treats them like
that and it gives them a challenge.  


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#5. Flirting In A Way That Sets You Up For An Exciting Night.  



This is a technique I use on girls I'm already seeing.  This is an
easy technique: Start a small little bantering session early on in
the day around noon.  Say some fun things so you get in her mind
logistically.  Then, end the texts in a way where you leave her
hanging.

For instance, yesterday I was eating and I wanted to meet up
with this good-looking girl later on that night. I ended up texting
her, "Hey you, I was just heading in to grab a bit and I starting
thinking about you." This definitely raised her interest and
she wrote "oh.. can't get your mind off me " "Ya I totally forgot my
wallet and I thought could spot me " she wrote "ah ah ah Okay as
long as I get half."  That was it and later on that night I called
her and we had a good night.  

All the texting did was keep me on her mind and give her a little
emotional ride which is what women love to feel.  It was real easy
to meet up with her after that.

Then when I do call her later on in the evening I just continue
where I left off and hit a few important points and then close it.

Miles,

That was some really good stuff. Some of the best advice I've heard on text game, and I just got done attending Adam Lyon's bootcamp. Anyhow, do you have any advice on things to text after a day 1 but before you have set up a day 2? Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated. You seem to really know your stuff when it comes to this area.

Thanks,

PUAddict

Well I know its easy enough for me to say, but theres not a lot to text game really. Just be interesting and avoid the typically AFC interview approach, such as, 'hi, how are you? have you had a good day? do you wanna meet up?'

I've got an example of the sort of thing you should be texting here from Adam Lyons:

Watcha cutie! You won't believe what’s happened to me over the last 24 hours, [let’s just say it involved 3 work meetings, 5 glasses of vodka, 2 late night cab rides and a penguin]. Anyhow I'm going out a couple of times to celebrate this week, but might get a few hours spare at some point, how’s your week looking?"

Notice how I didn't directly invite her out. Normally she will suggest a time she can meet with me, or something like, "I'm busy this week, I can't make it, Maybe next week?" at which point you can take it from there.

However what if she responds like this "Nah, sorry I'm busy this week" You can reply with. "Ha ha ha, you wish! I wasn't offering, if I get a few hours free I'm going to use it to chill out. I love how you were pretending to be busy though. In fact me and my mates were saying just this week people don't tend to lead interesting lives outside of work... so what do you do that’s interesting?"

Or: Hey cutie, so random meeting you just now, are you always so friendly to strangers?" Then I add some random question at the end.


Think of it this way, before you send a text try to put yourself in her shoes and look at your text and say is that funny? is this different? is this crazy? is this someone I definitely think can brighten up my life? if it’s a yes to any of those, send, if it’s lame don’t do it. This is an art form and being lazy with texts will get you nowhere.

A common mistake is people try to use every aspect of game in texting. NEVER neg in a text, and you can't really afford to risk playing push/pull through text as one push too hard and you've lost it.

I would advise to send a first text the following day, although after I get a girls number I sometimes send a text straight away saying, 'hey that guy you were just chatting to looks like fun, you should hang out with him sometime! x' Its guaranteed to make her smile and get her thinking about hanging out with you. You should use texts to humour her, that way she knows you'll be fun to hang out with.

Don’t answer right away and give a genuine reason as to why you were “busy”. It’s all about timing it right, at the beginning give her at least as much time she took to respond to you and even more. Once a certain rhythm of text flow has been developed, then YOU should set the agenda, sometimes replying quickly, sometimes slowly – never becoming predictable. Because you ALWAYS end your texts with a simple question she can and should answer, the onus is on her all the time to come back to you! She won’t have the discipline to do that so you will be able to drop her and pick her up as you chose. Initially very fast answers = Needy, on the other hand unpredictability is great, therefore it should be introduced into the dynamic pretty fast.

Keep the line alive starting right after the day 1 all the way through, become part of her life immediately, can be done easily via small attraction spikes texts. On the other hand stop texting at a high note, get your message across and STOP, don’t tex her to death, she should always be wanting more.

If you want to just stoke the fire with a little spike, you can just fire off a spike text, but if you target is for her to answer your text, ensure one question per text, always place questions at the end of text.

Keep it short sweet and simple.

Throw in a funny snippet of “your life right now” with an emotion attached.

Be unreactive, you live in your own world, often she’ll write something and you’ll feel compelled to answer right away and this is where mistakes happen, don’t be impulsive, review before sending off, make sure you stay on message. Don’t care about her not responding, disregard and start the next day another thread.

Be very careful with “cocky funny” in text, remember you are not there smiling & kinoing her, thus letting her know it’s only a tease! It should be jumping out of the text.

Notice how she answers her texts, is it long and elaborate, keep at it. If it seems like the texts are not hitting the right spot with her, there are long time lapses or short answers, move swiftly over to phone before a negative “no” ladder is built up. Also note, for foreign girls sometimes it’s easier for them than talking over the phone, coz they have the text right there in front of them, but sometimes, if they don’t “get it” it’s better to talk, need to gauge that on a case by case basis.

It’s good to mirror the style of your correspondent. If she’s brief, be brief. If she’s chatty be chatty. But always stay one energy level above her. If she doesn’t ever use smiley's or lol’s don’t use them. Use punctuation and “haha”!!!! If she never “x”s you only “x” when she’s been good. Choose a word she uses in her text and use it back, pick up on subtle writing styles, notice, does she use punctuations at all, is there a gap between one sentence and another or does she write like this,without any gaps at all.

Our goal is to establish the concept that “we are alike”. In fact using “we” is very powerful. Whenever we can, it’s good to use “we” instead of “you and I”. It establishes a connection in a very powerful and subtle way. “when can we get together?” says something very different to “when are you free?” it assumes that we both are participating in mutual process of “getting together”. She’s not being “asked out”.

There are a few things u can do, by way of IOD’s/takeaways, but this has to be only once she is quite invested in the interaction, since you can only do a takeaway if there was something there to start off with.

* Take a longer time than normal to reply and totally ignore what she said, if you don’t like her last response.

* Send her a txt that says you’re very busy and can’t meet her this week (whether or not you had offered to before or whether you are busy) and don’t propose anything else

* Drop the ‘x’ from your text (she WILL notice)



Hope this stuff is useful to you. Just be relaxed with it, and don't ever sit around waiting for a reply from a text. Remember you are an attractive guy who she would be lucky to go on a date with, not the other way around.

Would be great to get some feedback, so let us know how you get on. GAME ON!!

Miles

Thanks Miles,

I'm not a complete novice when it comes to text game so I am definitely familiar with a lot of the concpets you addressed but I think you helped cement a lot of them for me, and you definitely gave me some new one's. I will definitely let you know how it works for me.

Thanks,

PUAddict

Good stuff guys! My method is to keep it edgy and fun. If you get several lols and lmao you are doing good. Afterwards text "let's meet up!" Also text only a few days or times and ask to meet up at a bar near her place and know your hotels or have fun in the car. Don't do the dinner thing or the coffee thing. I've done this all and it takes too long and they want you to escalate. Girls don't want to start making out if they are eating brunch or dinner. Too much money and too much time wasted. Bar all the way! Cheap drinks. As for phone calls...at least the girls I talk to and f'ed could care less about talking initially on the phone. This is a new world and everyone is on the go. The only time I verbally talk is when they are in front of me. Good luck!

Thanks for the all advice guys, it's all great stuff.

Btw miles, have u got any examples of attraction spikes lines to use in future texts?

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bumped for examples of attraction text spikes.

I met a girl at the bar and we played the 5 questions game. She lost, of course, and she made sure to let me know how she felt about losing after I texted her at the bar right after i N closed her. I texted her the next day telling her that I give a pretty awesome massage and that if she wins the kissing contest, maybe she'll get one. I F closed her a few days later, never speaking to her on the phone and only interacting with her once before at the bar the weekend prior.
Attraction spikes?
Anything that heightens your value, really. Any time you make her laugh or smile, that's an attraction spike. Small texts like, "stop it!" her: "stop what?" you: "thinking about me and giggling. " always gets a good response. I sent this one today and then she responded with "lol you're a dork!" to which I responded with, "I'm adorkable and you love it." and I got another lol from her to which I haven't replied.
It's all in what you say via text and you have to base it off your previous interaction, if you've had one.

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