I am sure this question has come up in the minds of many aspiring pua's.

I myself, just got back from a club (danced with 1 girl - afc, i know). When I see girls out there, they are being really sexual in their moves, yet some just don't want you near them. Others start giving really awkward looks.

I was curious to see if I could avoid those awkward moments with dancing sets, by introducing myself on the dance floor before I started dancing with them. That ultimately led to VERY AWKWARD situations.

This topic is slightly jumbled in my mind. But the main thing I am trying to understand, is why disinterested women dance so sexually in public places these days.

Another thing thats been bothering me is how to approach women on the dance floor. Just come up behind them and start freaking?? Face them, smile, and make gestures to start freaking??

Anyway, I hope some others can give me insight about this. My best theory is that dancing is supposed to nonverbal communication...no need to say hi, just smile, and take her hand to instruct her how to position herself on you. I'll have to try that route next time I'm out there (since the music is too loud to conversation anyway).

thanks in advance guys

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in my opinion, stay off the dance floor if you are looking to pick up women. women usually want to dance and that is their zone and their place where they can show off their DHV so you will usually be just used to give her a good time.

Well, This might not work for everyone (because I'm a pro dancer, I give workshops to pay rent) But I just go on the dancefloor and pick up girls, they give all sorts of IOI's there, dance next to you bump their ass into yours by ''accident'' dance near you, look if they have your interrest and so on. Now I was out trying a few bits last night by telling them they would need to try harder than just dancing to get my attention. One girl actually started trying harder and harder to get me to dance with her. Then I went to the bar, wich is next to the dancefloor, with a mate. she walked past a few times and each time I said stuff like, ''There you are again, You want me.'' And at the end of the nght her girlfriends where really pulling her back as she wanted to go to me. (mightve been the problem that I didnt speak a word to the friends)

Like I said, might not work for everybody as you need to be quite a dancer to pick up girls on the dancefloor. But from the sideline you can also go with stuff like ''Are you dancing for me? No? Ok, then it's fine You wern't impressing me anyway''

hey guys, thanks for the input.

I've never been much of a dancer all my life. So now I know its not absolutely necessary to pick up girls on the floor (pretty hard to get acceptance from the friends as 3 hands mentioned). I'll probably save my dance skills (or lack thereof) for girls I already know. Also, I noticed Mystery did pretty well without dancing too.

Lucid, you also bring out a good suggestion. I feel the same way about dancing, but my friends say otherwise (they aren't into pickup).

anyway, thanks again

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Some thoughts...

Its easier to open a set on the perimeter of the dance floor and then after you have built some comfort ask the ugliest one to dance... the rest will follow...

also if you are on the floor and want to dance with girls... use the energy of the song... for instance if you are in a bar/club and some 80's rock, comes on... you the songs people usually always sing to.. start getting into it showing crazy energy and then make eye contact with any girl doing the chorus like u are just having a blast belting out this ballad/pop/song/rock song whatever... then turn around..do your own thing... but when the chorus comes back make eye contact again(showing lots fo energy and remember you are fun she wants to hanogut with) extend your arm to her and take her in your hand...


that usually yields great results...

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Also I'd like to add that if you are dancing you will have to display alpha male charactaristics. Do not be one of those (No disrespect to the music or dance I like it and do it aswell but not when picking up girls) Hardcore/trance/hardstyle/jumpstyle dancers, they scare girls away UNLESS you ask a girl who does it to teach it to you. Sensual slow movements, a great song for the dancefloor is for example LL Cool J - Doing it Or sean Paul - Like Glue (Not a really slow song but a great song to dance to with a girl). A very bad song for example is Angerfist - Broken chain. Ofcourse there are always girls who like or dislike a certain song or music type.

There is also a piece in the movie Hitch with Will Smith that explains that slow movements are better than fast movements. It's a bit at the start think somewhere in the first half hour.

Excellent!

3 hands, slow movements definitely go for a sexy style. I mean, break dancing and all that crazy ish is cool to look at (and can dhv), but when dancing with girls, I noticed they like slower, and silkier movements.

I also noticed they like when you trace their curves with your hands as you dance with them (in my experience, they usually start grinding harder when I do that).

Shrugs, I am also glad you brought up energy level. Its a fundamental that is very easy to disregard in high-energy situations like clubbing.

In summary, I am starting to understand that dancing gives girls a chance to feel sexy in public (without being called a whore). I've been real intimidated by the dance floor and all your insight is definitely helping.

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A couple of things awsome way to close is to dance poss. k close while dancing. go for a breath of fresh air outside, number close move out etc.

dude, I did that all without know what I was doing once, last year.

Girl was somewhat into me (looking into it now, she was in A2 at this point). Anyway, her friends come up to me with her, and start dancing. They tactfully put her near me (they were drunk, so it was obvious). I danced with the girl, and then kissed her.

After the kiss I realized I wasn't too interested in her, and I was hot from all the dancing, so I told her I wanted a breath of fresh air outside. (I "accidentally" did A3)

We get outside, and I really don't want to start making out, so I start chit chatting about random shit (C1 & 2 LMFAOOO). I kiss her for a lil (to get her to simmer down), and then tell her its getting late and that my boys and I gotta leave.

After that she was REEALLY into me. haha.

...Its funny: by trying to make her lose interest, I gamed her really well.

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