where should you sit to in relation to the girl? if you are going for a few drinks.

I have always been confused by this. sitting opposite her is good cos you have hers and she has your full attention and you can make eye contact etc. The downside though is you can barely touch etc as you have this barrier of the table in the way... and then ultimately go in for the kiss - unless of course you decide to sit next to her mid game - which looks suspect to say the least.

ultimately the objective is to kiss her and have lots of kino etc... So what is the general consensus? sit opposite or next to her?

I have a couple of places available for dates, depending on the kind of girl she is. All of them have comfortable sitting areas with couches or such (for sitting with more than one person). Now what I usually do is make her choose, but I try and direct it towards sitting next to me. My favourite way to do this and also a way to see if she is interested, is moving to the further away part of the couch, but not sitting down and almost seem inviting (no gestures or anything too obvious though, just subtle body language) for her to sit down next to you.
This way it was her choice to sit next to you and that is the far more comfortable situation. If you chose your place right you ll have enough space to drink or eat, yet talk and come closer for kino too.

Works for me, have fun with it,
Len