I've been seeing this hb 9 almost two months. I want to stay confident in the relationship, but I feel like I may have acted insecure and what your guys opinion. I really want to be confident in this relationship to maintain attraction. I feel like that I showed I felt threatened by other guys in my gf's life and I may have seemed insecure.

1st My girl had a friends with benefits before she began "dating" me. He continued to message her and send her text trying to steal her away from me. I got kinda pissed about this dude messaging her, even after she told him it wasn't going to happen, he kept it up and I mentioned something about sending him an email letting him know to back off, she talked to him again, told him to back off and that was that. But does it come off as insecure to be concerned about something like that?

2nd. Same situation happened except raunchy text messages were involved so I sent this guy a message saying "Quit texting Meg or you're going to have a problem" he stopped.

In both situations she told them to back off it wasn't happening and they didn't back off. One time I said something, the other time I alluded to wanting to say something. How should I handle stuff like this in the future? Did I handle it right this time? Did I act AFC/insecure?

Nope it wasn't stopping with just her telling him to stop so you did the right thing. I think it comes off as more of a protector vibe than anything.

you did the right thing... very 'alpha' of you...

You need to protect her.. You didn't get mad at her, but at him.. And she did the right thing, but as her good efforts weren't enough to make him stop - you had to stop in..

Good boy!..


If you were insecure, you would get mad at her, ask her if she's been cheating you, saying to her " I WILL KILL HIM".. ect..


PS: It's so normal that guys hit on our GF, i would be worried if they didn'! (Which would mean she is really ugly, or she is hiding it from you).. Reward her that she is telling you it, and tell her (if she doesent already know) that she should just tell him / them to back off.. nothing more, nothing less.. Tell her you are not mad, you dont blame them from trying.. But if they cross the line (like the 2nd guy) in some cases you might have to give her a hand..

Nice work Dizzler! I'd say you did everything perfectly.