hey guys, hope you can help me out.

I been having problems about getting this girl. Me and this girl have been working together for over a year now, but we never managed to hit it off.

A year ago, me and this girl met and got on really well, too the point where we would text each other over every single minute of the day, but then I got so frustrated with her when we ever tried to get closer together, I always felt a arms length away. and I felt so rejected to the point where i had a massive argument with her and then we didn't talk to each other for a while.

However, I think that the way I acted with her sometimes made me feel clingy, and possive.

This cycle carried on, she argued with me, I argued with her, for over a year, however, it was either one or the other who decided to talk and apologize.

Then when we finally did get on, (these past 2 months) she keeps emphasizing the word 'friend' to me, and keeps telling me all her problems, about her ex-boyfriend and how much it hurts her.

now she keeps telling me she never liked me that way, but at the start of us knowing each other, she was the one who gave me her number, she was the one who flirted with me, and she was the one who added me on face-book. she was the one who texted me everyday how my day was.

I did tell her how I felt, but she just said lets be friends.

I ain't going to lie to you, she is probably a 9, every guy wants her, including me. I aint a bad looking guy either, and I am really sociable, fun to be around, but I can get a little too clingy.

is there anyway in which I can get her? I wouldn't be on a forum site, if this problem wasn't frustrating me.

thanks guys.

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I think you need to just cut your losses and move on for now. To be honest, it sounds like she was just enjoying getting attention from you but had no intention to take things further. Lots of girls do this, especially in the 18 to 24 age range. As women get older, they mature, and tend to move away from this type of behavior. This also sounds like a toxic relationship that you two have with the constant arguing. You probably just lust after this girl and do not genuinely like her.

Find other girls, DEFINITELY work on your confidence/neediness issues, and forget about her. If you can, don't give her more attention that you need to (or preferably none at all). Talk to other girls in the office and let her see you, but don't pay attention to her. Maybe she will become interested, or you can try again in a few months, but leave her alone for now.

You say you're a fun guy so if possible date at least two to three other girls at once. It will definitely help you get over your neediness as you'll focus your attention between multiple people and not just one. Try online dating if you have trouble lineing up dates...there are lots of horny girls

If I wasn't clear before, let me spell it out: SHE WILL BREAK YOUR HEART AND RUIN YOU IF YOU KEEP PINEING OVER HER!

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Hey Amish, (not sure of how much knowledge you have of PUA jargon - so i'll spell it long hand)

to be blunt - from your description, you've done pretty much everything to get her to be un-attracted to you, and put yourself very deep in the 'lets just be friends'-zone (LJBF):

- You've put her up on an unreachable mental pedestal, where you've been after this girl for a long time, being clingy and taking every opportunity to fluff talk.
- Hate to say it; you defiantly have 'one-itis', you've been transfixed on this girl for over a year now, to the point of arguing with her why she isn't showing constant IOI's (indications of interest)
- Just because she used to text/talk to you everyday doesn't mean she's head over heels for you. That was a poor judgement call.
- If for the last two months you haven't gotten in with her even as nasty, dirty re-bound sex. The odds are stacked against you.

It's painfully ironic that the guys who try least to make the girl happy at every opportunity usually fail in having sex with them. I've been there in my earlier days of PUA.. I had never really understood the meaning of the phrase:

"treat em' mean, keep em' keen"

because girls always say they want the "kind, caring and sensitive" fella.. but - they want to marry that guy when they are older.. but they want to fuck the bad boy when they are young. I didn't get this until about 9months ago when I changed my tactics of PUA.

Have you ever seen two kids playing before.. or every played with a sibling as a child? Ever notice how when one child has a toy that the other has not - the child without that toy automatically wants it - even if the child really need it. And the other child with the toy doesn't really care for it anymore because the child owns it. Humans will always have that same trait.

This girl already has you in her pocket, therefore she no longer has a reason to crave you. You've demonstrated such massive lower value (DLV) that it would take quite a lot to make yourself the stud muffin again.
The truth of the matter really is that if she was attracted to you in the beginning - it faded away from a long period of fluff talk.. My brother has an excellent technique which uses the 5 question game over text message which will get a girl to start thinking very naughty thoughts about you - for a girl you are into, you have to start sexual escalation quickly, otherwise she'll dump you in the LJBF-zone. In this case, you met her - all went well.. a year later plus numerous arguments makes this a monster task to get her to be attracted to you.

To be totally realistic here, you should cut your losses, and move on. Show that you don't need her - and make sure that other girls start getting attracted to you!!!
You said you're easy on the eyes, therefore if you start forging an image for yourself - act, feel and dress like a rockstar.

Remember, women want what they can't get. It's a simple basis needed for game, talk to the hot girl's less attractive friends, show you are above the beautiful ones, and they will be more attracted to you because you are not the drooling average frustrated chump (AFC) starting at her radiant beauty..

Leave her before she consumes you and wastes another year of your teenage years where you should be fucking everything.

-Illusionist-

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I'm going to tell a valuable thing here mate. As a rule of thumb, if you've spent over a month of intensive contact with a girl and you haven't made any progress or gotten the green light, forget it. Suddenly trying to get with her after a month of doing nothing will be weird, it will be too tense.

There's more fish, good luck.

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