ok i'm see-ing this girl named Z. her bestfriend told me she interested and i have the potential for a r/s but she wants to know me more and knows if she can trust me.(apparently she has hurt bad before)
so she asked me out for her friend's birthday dinner and we hit the clubs after that. she clubbed hopped and i stayed back in the club with my other friends. so i was kinda gaming this girl and we ended up making out in the smoking room and she went to place. i had a 2 days mc to cover me for my army camp. so i texted Z telling her im sick and all. then i said a friend stayed over to look after me and stuff. the weirdest thing was, i didn't specify the sex of the person but she actually knew it was a girl.
Can any guru teach me how to gain her trust? cos i really do like her.
how else can i continue with her from here?

anyone?

Yeh, you shouldnt have gamed that chick in the club.

But as they say, what is done is done.

When ppl use "game" they want themselves to stand out from other men so what i suggest is game her but at a lower level. Go out with her, build attraction, prove to her your the guy to be around and the guy to trust.

how did she react when she assumed that another girl had stayed over at your place? did you admit it was a female person?

i'm no pick up artist or guru or whatever you call it but if you ask me:

she liked you in the first place, so she likes you the way you are. you might have scared her of a little but that shouldn't be anything that won't go away.

just spend time with her, have fun together like you used to and don't make a big thing out of what happened. things should fall into place.

when her best friend told you, that Z likes you, this means that Z allready has made her decision about you. she wants you. it's just a way to tell you to be nice to her.

good luck

apparently, one of her friends caught me in the act in the smoking room. this isn't really going well.. she's ignoring my texts and calls. how can i make this a good turning point for me?
we're not together but she's acting like a girlfren i cheated on. i think she's into me.

what if she refuses to meet me?

if your think your ready to get into a relationship with this chick then tell her friend to tell Z that your really sorry and that you want to be with her and shit and that was just a one night thing and you realised that it was a mistake

she doesnt answer ur texts and emails huh? go to meet her in person and apologies yourself and say that u r not the "bad guy" who she thinks u r, u only met her once but u care about her and blah blah blah......

if she doesnt accept your apologies there's nothing left to do

Tell her its her fault for leaving the club. When she left you felt hurt and that she wasn't interested in you. Because you were voulnerable, this girl started talking with you and kind of hit it off. You didn't want to be an ass and was polite to her, and she took it farther than you wanted it to go when you both went to go for a smoke. You aren't dating her and you have not had an "exclusive" talk - although you hoped it was headed in this direction.

BTW she didn't know it was a girl over at your place - it was a shit test that you confirmed by not answering the right way. Also, the "sick" excuse is always kind of weak, think up of something else.

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is there anyway else i can salvage this situation? btw kudos to the post above. sounds nice. but what if she said, you could have followed instead? and the kiss part she could say something like so you'll be polite to every girl?

Just admit you fucked the other girl but make it sound romatic, (i am to tired at 4:30 to think of a good line but something like "look it meant nothing, and it has made me relise something important, i think you are the one, i couldent even get hard until i imagined it was you, i wish i had of relised before it happened that it was you but i was blind i couldent see what was right infront of me."

I realize what's wrong now. She isn't angry but more of disappointed with me. i guess she trusted me alot and i made a big mistake. and she doesn't really want to speak to me right now. I guess all i can do if freeze out for a while and get back in. Any opinions? or how can I make her not disappointed in me anymore?