This is my first post. Thanks for having me here at the lounge- I trust I will be learning a lot here. So I'm a musician- that's my deal, I guess that's how I usually prove my worth. As such, the situation i'm in now has a lot to do with music.

I met this girl at a party, she was singing with her friend and I had them try to sing a vocal arrangement I came up with. They were down, and got pretty into it-we all agreed that we should do it again sometime, so we exchanged numbers. I was with another girl at the time who was watching this whole process, but it was more friendly than flirty, so she was alright with it. So in the next few weeks I chilled with both of the girls, played a little music, got some massage. My intentions at this point were not really to sleep with either of them, I just wanted to play music. However, one of the two girls really grew on me, and my intentions changed.

A few days later, I took the girl in question to a recording studio, and recorded some tracks with her and another of my guy friend's. The night was amazing, and at the time it seemed that she was pretty into me.

So here's where the trouble lies.....A couple of days later I call her, or she calls me, and for some reason, after getting some bad game advice, I was super cold and deuchy to her on the phone. I'm pretty sure that the reason she was into me in the first place was because I was not like every other guy, and I was pretty much very honest up until that point. She got kind of weirded out and then my phone died. I turned it back on, she called, thinking I hung up on her. I don't think that she believed me when I said I didn't. Anyway, the conversation ended with her saying that she'd call me when she got into town.

I received no phone call, and like an AFC, I called her up, then left a message asking if she was still coming into town. I never heard back from her, so the next morning I texted an apology for my phone deuchyness. A couple of days later, I think I tried calling one more time, left no message, then got a callback later in the day. Thus ensues the lamest conversation I've ever had. She was super stoned, I was in a loud coffee shop, the only thing I really understood was that she was going to Vegas and would be back on Tuesday. Today's Wednesday....should I call this girl? It's been about a week since i've talked to her, I don't want her to think that i'm obsessed or somethin, but I really do want to move forward.

Now it's at the house-of-cards stage where anything you do or don't do can ruin what little chance you have left.

Best thing to do is play it safe and hope for the best. If she's not replying, you can't reply anymore. Usually it's over at that point.

The earlier you fuck up and act like a dush through bad gaming advice, the more certain your failure is.

ok so i waited until today (thursday) and gave the girl a call. she answered the phone right away and told me she was just thinking of me and wanted to meet up. i told her i was busy for most of the day...which i was, and i would call her if i freed up. around 930 or so i texted her that i was prolly just gonna crash and that we should chill tomorrow.....we shall see. i guess a question comes to mind here.....is it best to be straightforward and honest with the call game, or better to say you're going to call then not call until a day later....this shit always confused me.

if you say youre going to call, call her. Just not at a specific time. Make her wonder when youre going to call, but do call her. Why would you want to come across as an unreliable sod from the word go.