Hey all. Hoping that I can get some help with a sticking point here. Over the last month I met three girls and ran into the same problem three times. We would go out on a first date/meet and things would get really hot really fast and then they would start ignoring me.

Here are the three examples:
1) Met HB7 for coffee and chatted with her for a few hours. Told me about a bunch of crazy sexual fantasies that she had and said that she thought we were "kindred spirits." Later told me that she thought it would be a bad idea if we continued to see eachother.
2) Met a HB7 on the street and talked with her for 5 minutes. End of the night so I went in for a quick kiss close that she graciously accepted. number closed her. Will not take my calls.
3) Took a HB8 out for drinks. Great give and take and a lot of laughs/jokes/sexual tension. Also confided her sexual fantasies to me. Made out in my car before I dropped her off. Will not return my calls.

Throughout the seducation process I have never let up on the C&F. The only thing that I can figure is that they are either giving me false IOIs for attention or I am not building enough comfort or both. Anyone else have this problem?

It seems like you are pretty good at keeping girls in a favorable altered state when you are interaction with them. The problem I think you may be having is anchoring. Just like you use a prop to bring a girl back to you later in the night, you need to give a girl a reason to talk to you again by giving her interesting nuggets of information with conversation. If you start talking about too many risky things quickly, the girl may get buyer’s remorse once she leaves the interaction with you and thinks about what occurred. The girl doesn’t want to be perceived as a slut, so you need to build that interaction and ground her to you better than you have been. Try talking about your next interaction together with her when you are with her. Talk about different things you can see doing together with her and she will start picturing being with you in those situations, and start to desire being with you, carrying them out. Make her believe that you see this as a longer term interaction than just 1 or 2 dates and she will be more inclined to let her guard down.

I notice you mentioned cocky –funny. This is great for opening and when you first meet, but if you continue it too long it can get old. Don’t let her start thinking that all you are about is punch lines. You have to have some substance to get her to come back for more. I also prefer to raise the sexual tension by subtle touch, long eye contact and innuendo rather than full out sexual experience talk. I find physically turning on a girl when she is with you will keep her coming back for more, while people can regret what they say later on.

I guess, what is the purpose of your gaming? If it is just to F-close as quickly as possible that I think you have to lay it on harder and faster. If it is just to see where things can go and possible dating then you can definitely slow down the sexual tension, as you can spread it out over more interactions.

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Seems like buyers remorse. You probably go sexual, without spending some good time in comfort. When you do so, once you're no longer together your sexual vibe will be gone and the only thing linked to you would be that sexuality. That's generally not a good thing if you still need to set up a day 2.

If you're the type of guy that likes to go sexual fast, that's fine, but when doing so make sure you do go for comfort, try and bounce a few times.

Sit. 1: Hanging out with a girl for 1 hour in a club.
Sit. 2: Hanging out with a girl for 15 minutes in a club, 30 minutes at a restaurant, 5 minutes on the street, 10 minutes in a bar.

Both of these situations last for 1 hour, but the second one will cause her to feel (after you and her have gone separate ways) like she knows you more.

Thanks for the input fellahs. I agree that I need to work on comfort, but it is comforting to know that I have F2M attraction down pat. All a matter of calibration now. Do you have any more examples of comfort building routines that you have used in the field?

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