I numberclosed a girl yesterday. It was the first number-close, I used game for.
Now I'd like your thoughts on how to continue.



Here is a short field-report that might make helping easier:

It was Sunday evening on a train station and I was on my way home from a longer trip. And so where a few other people.

By chance I heard a girl next to me phoning her parents and saying that her younger sister did disappear and the sister seemed to travel for her own now. She didn't seem really worried it was just an FYI call.

As the train arrived we stood in the same are of the train, as I was bored, I started to make some Origami.

She looked genuinely interested, so I decided I could practice on her.
I opened by telling her I'm not done yet, and if she had any suggestion what I should fold. She denied (They always do).

After I finished, I handed her the finished paper frog and asked "Do we need to worry about your lost sister? ".
She laughed and told me thst it wasn't that much of a deal. I was in.

We made some smalltalk about origami travel and stuff.
I stopped talking, she continued after a short silence. I took that as an IOI and moved forward to close, because soon she'll leave the train.

Because I'm doing the lifestyle challenge I asked her for a place to get cloth earlier. So I used it as a hook.

"Whould you mind to helping me in [shop she recommended] ?"
she didn't.
- we arrived at her destination, and I asked her for her number (yes a mistake, I know) I got her digits anyways and her name, and it did not appear to me it was just to be nice.
She even asked for my name. Then she got off the train.


So: what to do now?

Have you tried contacting her since then?

I feel it's really important to contact the girl as soon as possible once acquiring her phone number. This is important because even if a girl gives her phone number out or meets five new guys a week you can quite easily be forgotten.

Send her a text message and see where you stand. As if she remembers you is down to meet up. If she doesn't remember you it isn't over, it's just you'll have to start from ground zero and build attraction through the phone- and get her comfortable with meeting up with you in person.

Ok so you recommend contacting her asap...
I thought that was AFC, but I'm here to learn.

what do you mean with "As if she remembers you is down to meet up"?
English is not my mother tongue

A lot of people think that contacting a girl the next day comes of as needy or lower value, but to be honest if you have tight phone game it isn't an issue.

Girls get approached by new guys so often- and probably give out their phone number more than you think. Due to this I've found that girls will either forget about you, or those feelings of attraction she had when she met you are not nearly the same and often leads to flakey numbers- unless you made some ridiculously strong impression where you know you'll stick out. However, I still think that contacting the girl fairly quick is still the best bet to go- so you're on her radar and she remembers you.

Usually, when I get a girls number at a bar or club I'll text her right in front of her and say something ridiculous. Usually, I don't want her friends to hear or something. It serves two purposes- it's fun, and it gives her your number. A lot of people don't answer unknown phone numbers. The same thing applies for day time- I'll make sure she'll have my number by texting her right there.

When I text a girl for the first time after we part ways I keep it fun, simple and something that doesn't require her to commit to much. Questions about how she's doing I tend to stay away because it's boring and asks for more investment rather than something funny and kinda out there. It kind of sets you apart from typical guys.

What I meant by down to meet, is if she wants to get together for a date sometime.

If she is answering your texts, try to get her on the phone and talk to her. If she is talking to you on the phone, try to meet her in person. That's the basic game plan.

That was very useful thanks a bunch!

since she goes to school I think it's a good idea to wait after lessons are over so she doesn't get into trouble.

I'll ask her if she gave the other paper-animal to her sister as she promised.

You'll be updated on the outcome

texted Monday - nothing
called Wednesday - nothing

Case closed.

But I've got new numbers to catch up on