It's a silly question... but how would you feel if she cheated with the worst guy ever. I mean... a low class, ugly god for nothing guy.
Would you feel different about ur own self?? Like that's the kind of guy she likes, so u must be like that?

No.
It's funny that you weren't injured enough by the fact that you were cheated on (hypothetically), but you had to craft a fairly creative comparison to further insult yourself. Why dwell on thinking up new ways to make yourself miserable? What does it matter what her taste in men is, her preferences should be the last thing you need to worry about. Maybe she just hates your existence so much she tried sleeping with a bunch of guys that had HIV in the hopes of transmitting it to you. Maybe she's the second coming of Jesus. Don't drive yourself crazy with the unknown, assume the best, prepare for the worst.

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I'd definitely see that as an external thing, something going on in her head. Or, possibly instigated by your behaviour, which could be an opportunity to learn something.

If she gets with a guy you KNOW is lower quality than you, then it's not about the quality of guy. Maybe she's trying to make you jealous, maybe she isn't feeling it, maybe she's just testing if she's really into you, it's gotta be something about her primal desires about not being comfortable where she is, could be her head messed up, could be some behaviour you could work on that's pushing her away. Also don't rule out the possibility that he has some confidence that you lack.

But if you KNOW he's a lower quality guy, inside and out, then it's not the attraction. It's something about the way she's feeling.

Well,temporary i might feel bad because she cheated.After that i might actually feel better because she made me more picky.
I could be with a girl out of interest(sex,social proof) or because i like her as a person.Maybe both.
If you are in a relationship for rather the 2nd reason,you want to feel you've put effort into getting her,also passing some of her standards for men.That's a definition of emotional investment.
Now,if she cheats,what does that tell about her ?
1.she hasn't invested same as you(or she doesn't do it anymore?)
2.the standards she has were in your mind(rationalized)
3.no self-esteem
This doesn't have to be 100% true,maybe there are some girls who cheated and neither of the things above are true.
I don't believe the "she wants to make you jealous" reason,that's bullshit,you don't do this to someone you care.If she thinks like that,she's probably isn't worth it anyway.
Another thing that matters is her attitude after cheating.
She has the reason of breaking up in her arms,if she cared she should be able to do the impossible.Most of the times,i doubt she will.
So,answer.How do i fell about myself ? Well,mostly the blame's on her.So i should be more careful next time.

You shouldn't be with a girl that cheats with you.

No you missed the point.


If you behave in a wussy way or do anything to continually make her feel insecure in the relationship - she'll start instinctively doing things to make you jealous to see how you react. It's a primal thing.

Making jealous and cheating are quite different things
make jealous is game=you care to a extent(done in order get the other to invest)
cheat=you don't care

I would just laugh as I did while watching "She's Out of My League."

Well I agree, cheating is pretty bad. But everyone has different morals, and this guy might decide it will be worth it. Like I said, for me it's intention. If she came back to me, and I really believed she didn't care, then yeah I wouldn't give her another chance. But if I thought it was a combination of her idea of making someone jealous, and the way I behaved, and I had the opportunity to see if I could work out what it was and improve on it and learn something, then yeah I would take her back.

Another PUA mentality that gets blown out of proportion is being positive - to the point of just plain being in denial and not learning anything. In this case, it's ignoring the fact that you could have done something to make her feel like she needs to do something...

If you approach a high class girl and open with "Hey what you celebrating" and she "doesn't hear you" (notice the quotes) and you repeat the question, and she says "Her birthday" and then turns away from you, you learn nothing by saying "I guess she doesn't know how cool I am." Obviously she's already assessed you and found you wanting, face it - work on why. As always, in this case it's body language, your inner state, how you feel about yourself. (Example obtained from another thread)

Its the same... I still feel terrible