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When i think back to my relationships, i see that its never my girlfriend who loses attraction, its me who loses the attraction. For the first month or 2 im completely in love with them and than i lose it. There is always a period of time, when i cant be with my girl for a month or 2 and it kills me. Even though we stay connected everyday, it just makes me bored of her. and being bored is my worse fear. Wut do you suggest i do? Im in a relationship right now, been goin on for a month, and currently im on vacation with family, and we talk everyday on the computer, and i told her that its not good for us to chat everyday cuz it wont be special everytime we talk. Now when i try to start conversations with her she doesnt even answer,
I can TOTALLY relate to you. My past relationships, have never lasted more than 1 month (at the max 3 months) because I get bored of the girl, and feel like trying new stuff...
This is due to two things:
1) The girl is actually boring to be with (Which means she must make up to it by her looks) but anyways, after a while that gets old. And she isn't willing to try to do new things, like hiking or new activities. Which makes me feel comfortable, but not excited about the relationship
2) I actually get bored of her, get bored of seeing her, get bored of talking to her, of the thing she says etc..
I'm in my 3rd month of my relationship right now, and to be honest, I feel like I need a lot more to "know her" this girl is mysterious, she is fun, she makes fun of me and we make fun of us together, and of the other people. She's smart, witty, charming, flirty. I am in love with her.
But I also know myself; I know I can get bored easily if I fall into a "Well, lets just stay home and watch movies every weekend night and on wednesdays lets go to the movies, and the other days lets just sit at the car and chat" routine.
I've been trying soooooo many new things with her. I actually look up events on the newspaper that would be fun to do, I've done things I've always wanted to do but never found a girl that would like to do them as well. There's always a conversation subject.
So... coming from someone like you, I would say:
Innovate!! Innovate on the stuff you do, get out of your comfort zone and enjoy something none of you have done. Take a t-shirt and paint it, go ice skating. Its a two-sided way of course. If she's a boring girl by nature, then there's nothing you can do. Actually, high manteinance girls ( as counter intuitive as it may seem) are the best for long term relationships in my opinion. They don't settle with just staying home and watching movies. Girls are like dogs (Ugly, I know) but let me explain:
A dog isn't happy with just someone feeding him on a daily basis. They need attention, they need to be groomed, taken out for a walk. Why? Because if you don't take it out for a walk, it will escape, because you don't give him that privilege. When a dog is bored, it starts to destroy everything (Hint hint, girl) ...
So, if you don't want to get bored. Look at your previous relationships and find out what you did.. And DON'T do it, or do the opposite. If you always stayed home.. go out. You don't need to go to a nightclub, but rather an art gallery, or a street performance etc...
I hope I could give you some insight.
Good Luck!!
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