I met an HB in a bookstore a while ago, last last Saturday and I added her on facebook via the e-mail she gave me. So I decided to game her.

I met her in a relationship section of the bookstore and here is what I sent her:

Me: Seeing you at the relationship section in the bookstore made me think you're a relationship expert. My friend has a relationship problem, perhaps you could give some advice?

HB: I thought I were but I am not actually. If i were an expert, I shouldn't be reading books there alone...lol...I was seeking help over the section...just like u only pray to God when u suffer but not always when u are having a good time...=|...well, u look more like an expert n u should give me advice..haha. But it is also alright if u share yr friend's problem to me cos may be i have experienced before...or whatever..=)

This is our conversation so far. It seems as though she's investing.

Here is my plan to reply onwards:

Me:Well, a friend of mine is really into his female co-worker. He told me that he has written many letters to this lady and hopes to win her over, but the problem is she has never replied. He wanted to write her another letter because he believes that females appreciate that gesture. But I think that it's not a good idea because that would come off as creepy. What do you advise?

HB: Replies

Me: Maybe a tease or something based on her reply. Nothing too C&F as she seems to have LSE (low-self esteem). Show some gratitude...(reward her for her investment). Perhaps ask her what her problems are as she's mentioned in her reply to me "u look more like an expert n u should give me advice..haha"

HB:replies

Me: fluff

HB: fluff

Me: Qualify get a # set up a Day2

This is hypothetical and things are not as predictable. But this is my outline so far. Please comment.

DON'T dare ask her about her problems. 9 times out of 10 her problem is some alpha male that dogger her and now she can't stop thinking about him and its also a one way ticket to friendville.

I tell them that I don't wanna hear their problems I'm here to have a good time not play dr phil. It works well for me, and everytime they get that urge to talk to me about some bs they remember what I said and stop themselves.

ajmn86, thanks for the reply. I agree with your standpoint, but I'm not too sure if a girl tells me about her problems that means that I'm in the friendzone...couldn't it mean that she has enough comfort with me to do so?

She has continued the conversation and replied quite promptly

She replied with:

No way. He absolutely shouldn't write her another one. I am reading a relationship book called "He's just not that into you" n i think it is the same to female. She's not responding if she's just not that into him. So, what i am suggesting him to do is either giving up or changing another method to approach her. Writing letters is only a single way of communication. U neva know what she is thinking n feeling. I think women in the 21st centuries are more interested in men have guts. Why not tell her straightly dat he likes her?? ask her out to dinner or something. May be he will find something he doesn't like about her during dating, or may be she starts to feel interest in him when they go out n talk more. Who knows?!

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Which is quite lengthy and seems as though she's investing quite a bit. Which is good, but perhaps it doesn't mean other than she is just trying to help.

Now, I'm thinking of redirecting the question at her. For instance:

Well done with your response. It was quite insightful. [Rewarding her effort, getting her motivated about investing] I agree that he could spill the beans and let the female know that he is interested in her but I doubt that it works for every female. It's like giving ones power away. Would you appreciate it if a guy told you he liked you?


This is what I'm thinking of but it is just fluff talk..it's kind of just a way to keep the conversation going...

the big problem with facebook is the vast amount of africans, indians and turks who are writing on every girl's photo profile : "Oh you are so beautiful"
and rising very much the girl's self image and also her materialistic interest from any other men...

I wish we can stop that

First off @ TheApostle:
don't say "well done with your response"

Try; Yeah I agree you have some really good points. (rewards effort, but doesn't sound like you're testing her)

and depending on her response maybe ask her to meet up casually at that bookstore you met her at (that would be my approach because bookstores usually have coffee shop in or near it, where i would transition from casual to insta-date) but that's just me.