Hey all had a little problem today. Was at subway chowing down on my footlong sub wen to HB's walked in and ordered aswell, not only that but they came and sat to the table right next to me (rest of the shop was empty) anyway i was really keen to attempt my first day sarge and was telling myself "yep sweet no problems" but then they started eating and i had already been sitting there for a couple of mins before i finished off my meal. So i was kind of like will it be awkward to talk to them now and i didnt know if i still shouldve spoken to them even though they were eating. Would they be less responsive because they want to stuff there faces or should i have just started talking even though i was eating and just stop and eat it later, just never like talking and eating at the same time (obviously not with mouth full) but u still run the risk of that fear of spitting a little bit of salami out and landing on the chick lol, so i need some help did i do the right thing (im guessing i probably didnt seeing as i didnt sarge them) but wat should i have done instead, would they have thought i was weird for waiting for them to finish eating and then talk ? etc. Hope u all can help
thanks

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what you need to do is think less

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lol that doesnt help

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Actually, he gave you the right advice. Stop overthinking it, just do it. Ask her what sub she bought or anything that pops in your head, don't sit there worrying about getting salami on her.

Well I will elaborate a bit more...When you sit there and don't approach you think!!!. You think what will their reaction be?, are they bitches?, is it rude if I talk to them?, What will they think? ect ect

After the first hesitation you are already setting your mentality to find excuses why it is better for you to not talk to them- this is unconscious to you at the moment though, with some work you will realise and stop yourself when you do this

So what could you have done? First of all they came and sat next to you which made your job even easier! all you had to do was open!- you could have thought up something smart and witty but something even along the lines of "which sub did you choose" is enough to break the ice

Now all you have to do is gauge by their reaction did they show interest or disinterest. One reward from opening is that you now usually have free pass to come in with a second question/sentence provided their first reaction wasn’t rude

Congratulations you opened a girl in Subway

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alright thanks man yea ill stop over thinking it and stick to the 3 second rule.

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One way to do it in a situation where you don't want to full-on "sarge" them while you eat is to make some sort of close-ended comment or question as they first sit down, and then start the conversation when you finish eating. This way, the ice will already be broken between strangers so you can take your time and "sarge" under your ideal conditions without it being like "why did he wait 5 minutes before he started talking to us?"

yea i get ya so something like, (if i was to recognise the sub for example) hmm meat balls i like the (watever sub) better *smile* as like an ice breaker kind of thing ?

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