| 2010-03-18 Thursday
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The first night I met Mouse, I invited her to see Avatar, but we instead go to an art exhibit with Rufio and Dark.
After the exhibit, I am hungry, so we head back to my area.
I decide I want to cook instead of eating out. Right in front of my place, she decides she doesn't want to come up and she keeps walking. I let her go. When I look back at her, she is just stranding on the corner looking back at me. I pull out my cell and call her. "Come on back, Mouse." Surprisingly, she comes back and we head upstairs.
We sit down at the table and chat as she draws in one of my sketch pads, which I find so attractive. After twenty minutes, I say, "I can't take this any longer," and jump on her.
We end up rolling around naked in my bed. I go for a condom. She grabs it and throws it across the room. Did saying "no" go out of fashion or something? I should have cooled off a bit at this point and let her know that we don't have to have sex. At the time unfortunately, I was frustrated and just kept pushing for sex.
After this, I wonder if sleeping with a girl right away is all that important anyway. Isn't it better to let her know that there is no pressure? If she's in your bed, she wants you, but it may just be too fast for her. If she resists, smile, tell her it's cool, then roll off. Just knowing you're chill might even be enough for her to change her mind that night.
I remember one time with Neko, if I remember correctly, I fell asleep because she did not want to have sex; she just wanted to roll around. When she realized I was asleep, she shook me awake because she wanted more. I started pulling off her clothes, though, and she pulled away again. My idea was, if I'm going to be awake with this girl, we have to have sex. I don't find this mindset effective.
Some guys recommend freezing the girl out. I've heard of one case in particular where the guy made the girl cry. He then grabbed her and they had sex. My guess is the girl was either inexperienced or had a weak frame. Otherwise, the girl may think to herself, "Why is this guy acting so cold all of a sudden? Just because I won't fuck him right now? I'm in his bed. Why is he so desperate for a fuck?" I don't think freeze outs are a good idea.
I understand blue balls are frustrating, but if she's in your bed, you're good. Affection is not about the physical act of kissing or sex. It's about the intention behind it. If the girl is willing to be in your bed, all the intention is there. She just needs some time and understanding.
After rolling around for too long, we realize that Emma and Fonzie might be waiting for us. We put on our clothes and go.
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