Hi, folks. This is my first post. I know I should have introduced myself in the appropriate thread, but since I intend to get right into the matter I thought I'd take this chance to say hi.

I discovered this world only recently, even though I've been doing my own thing for quite a while. I have to be honest and say that I didn't like a lot of what I read. It reminded me too much of what I used to witness in my college years. Guy goes to club and says cheesy line hoping he won't go back home empty-handed. Jaded girl has seen it a thousand times that night and becomes increasingly defensive. It all seemed to me so contrived and stiff (no pun intended).

Like I say the whole PIA world seemed to me like reliving all that. I found the approach on several levels: the whole cheesy line thing, the whole restraining yourself to the club scenario.... The whole world is one big playground, why stick to the club scene which is nothing but a big auction? The music is too loud, the girls are defensive and there's competition everywhere.

Like my username suggests I operate in the real world. It makes daily life much more interesting and possibilities are endless: the shop assistant, the girl on the train, passers by, even work colleagues and customers. I think it's much more exciting because you catch them off guard and, on top of that, you don't restrict yourself to the clubbing demographics.

I have to make clear the target is not always bedding them, seducing them can be as good. There's nothing like the thrill of the chase. And the real world offers an endless range of women to seduce. From teenage girls to hot MILFS, from party animals to the kind of girl you would introduce to your mum... I make a point of seducing every woman I come across. It's almost like an addiction.

I have to say I was invisible to women at school, but I have now become nearly irresistible to women all across the spectrum. Please, don't think I'm vain - I only got to this stage by sheer will force. If you think all the time of the person you want to be, you eventually become that person. If you spend 24/7 seducing women you end up being attractive to women effortlessly. The problem is many men try to be someone they're not for a couple of hours on a Saturday night, and that's a recipe for failure. The secret is being that man 24/7. It's important that you love women. I don't mean wanting to shag them, I mean being in love with womanhood. All great seducers were like that. Be a gentleman to all women, regardless of age or looks. Smile at the middle-aged woman at the supermarket checkout...

Eventually it's about being the man women want. And women don't want Pepe Le Pew and they don't want a metrosexual or a Guido or a spineless creep. Women want an alpha male, man who is relaxed, secure and in charge. We've made it all more complicated than it really is. It's not about tactics, pickup lines or wings. It's about instict, it's about hormones.

Smile at that girl. Give her that look. The look that says that you're in charge and you own her, the one that suggests that you two share a secret no one else knows. She'll melt before your eyes. The right look is the best pick-up line. It's not about what you say, for goodness sake, it's all about hormones.

Well, hope I didn't sound arrogant. Here's to many interesting conversations on this forum. I'm sure I'll learn a lot.

Nice first post, good story, stick around, we need people like you on here.

Chel

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Awesome post. I agree 100%. It's not about routines or being fake, you have to be yourself and be that person all the time. I chat with people who are 65 ALMOST the same way I do the ones who are 20. Teasing, joking, chatting.

I'm new to "the game" and I hesitate to even call it that because I like the idea that a pick up should be natural, just a part of who I am and not canned material. This feels a lot more congruent with who I am, thinking on my feet and adapting to the situation. Plus it's more rewarding, because I know that changes I make to "my game" are changes to my character and personality, things that carry over into my education and professional life.

Where do you draw the line between canned material and your own? I've heard some negs, openers and picked up on kino escalation and I've used it (appropriately) on friends as well as targets, but I never think of this as a routine. It's sort of like hearing a funny joke or picking up on phrases your friends say and repeating it yourself. How natural is natural, if you understand me.

I'm not too familiar with the theory, I'm sure other members can help you there, but I think we shouldn't confuse naturality with lack of consciousness. If, for instrance, you touch her arm because you think it's the right thing to do at that precise moment, that doesn't make it fake or unnatural, as long as it makes you feel relaxed and natural. Now if, on the other hand you try to play someone else's role not only is that unsustainable in the medium term, you'll probaly end up making a fool of yourself becaue you won't feel comfortable.

It's about trying to become someone better and palying to your strenghts instead of pretending to be someone better. It takes more work but, like you say, it will benefit every aspect of your life. I've become more confident in the last five to ten years and that hasn't only made me more successful with women, but it has also improved my work life and my relations with everyone.

I see you are concerned with being honest, and I can relate to that, but it's a bit like the difference between telling a girl she hasn't put on weight even though she has and telling her you're single when you're married. In one case you're only making her feel comfortable. In the second case you're being dishonest with her.

Sometimes when we say "I have to be honest with her" we're actually thinking "She must know the kind of loser I am". It's as if we were afraid of success. But why can't we think "She must know the great guy I am" instead? And I'm talking about being that great guy with her, not blabbing on about your competitive swimming medals

great job!

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