As a couple of guys have mentioned STD's in this thread I thought I'd point out another thread I have just written in the health and fitness section std-testing-time-yay-vt70620.html]here[/url].

My advice is on this topic though who cares what she has done or who she has done it with as long as she is with you now and only you.

Of course she can, you are never safe.

But there are some differences.

Before she wouldnt be cheating. If she has decided to be with you it is a decision from her side. If you force her to it is a decision from your side. Three guesses which one will be more likely to make her cheat on you.

So what is better, not going into a relationship because she might cheat and because of that end up as the eternal single.
Or... Risk being hurt but also risk being happy.

I dont think that there are people out there who are the "cheating type" and others of the "non cheating type". I think everyone may cheat. Anyone! You can never be safe.

On one hand, yes she has done it before so it may not be a big thing for her. (That is, if you consider done it before being have totally legitimate sex without being exclusive with someone else.) On the other hand, she might have gotten that out of her system, she might long for something serious and wanna leave those wild years behind her.

Compare that to the priests daughter who has sex on the wedding night for the first time... Hey hey, she has been missing out and shes gonna wonder what it would be like with other guys...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Apply it to yourself too.

if you've slept with other people, then you can do that again. do you NOT get into a relationship because you MAY be tempted to sleep with other people?

FFS, alot of what i see in this thread is so hypocritical it's not funny.

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I wasn't justifying the number of partners she had with anything. All I said is, if I want to know, then that information should be available to me.

I disagree, as long as you know she's A: only seeing you, and B: free of STD's, she really shouldn't have to give away her past.

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Then what's the point of building a relationship with that person? For shits and giggles?


Being 100% open with each other is part of a relationship. You don't seem to agree, which is fine. We have a different view of relationships, and neither of us are wrong.

If I may, it seems to me you are looking for an excuse to end the relationship. Do yourself and the poor girl a favour and talk about it. Tell her that the fact she has had a healthy sex life is making you feel slightly insecure, if she can't convince you that it is only you she want's no one on this forum can.

not from cardiff by any chance are you dave ? or uni there.

This would've made more sense if you quoted the OP.

Afraid not mate, although I do know a fair few taffs and have stayed there before.

You are entirely correct, I seemed to have hit the quote button instead of the reply button.

there is 100% open about you as you are now, and 100% open, going to tell you every single detail of their life. after you get the number, what's next, you want length/girth measurements of each guy? want to know how long they lasted? whether or not they went down on her? then we could move onto all the other personal stuff that's better left behind, like how many times she's pee'd her pants in public, all this would be "getting to know her" in your sense of the term. but really doesn't do anything for a relationship, considering your not dating the 15 year old girl that got drunk and pee'd herself, or the 19 year old girl that had a different sex partner every week, your dating the girl NOW. the emotions, mindset, and place in life are different to they were now, so any of those past behaviours mean squat about who she is now.

i'd be asking myself, if i were you, WHY knowing the number of guys she's been with is that important?

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Yeah!

Well, if you change the first one to A: Following the rules of your relationship

There are polyamorous couples who makes it work.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

SO! I had an extremely long conversation with my girl about this. My issue with this really comes from a combination of jealousy, but also my hypocrisy. When I hooked up with her the first time, it was the definition of a booty call. I called my wing afterwards and told him I just slept with the sexiest hb10 and she fucked like a dirty slut and it was the hottest sex I had in a while. I was sleeping with two other women at the time. Then I hook up with her a few more times and she started just kind of sticking around, and after a few dates we became exclusive.

So looking back, I knew I was sleeping with a girl who was promiscuous and I liked it. When I found out there were three other guys I was initially disgusted and jealous, but after Ezo's initial posts I realized it was whatever.

Girls who lead a lifestyle of sleeping with multiple partners a week, IMO, have self esteem issues because that is just a lack of self respect. It is slutty, it's not subjective. Sleeping with four guys over the course of seven days is a slutty thing to do. But my gf explained to me that her ex of a year was extremely possessive and overprotective. And that the last two months of their relationship she broke up with him twice and after the second time she was just so sick of being overwhelmed and boxed in that she got wasted one night with a close friend and slept with him, she also had a friends with benefits for a little over a week, and the third guy was the first guys friend. Now I get that, it's excessive, but I can relate to it.

This isn't a lifestyle she led for longer than two and a half weeks. Now after thinking about it I realized that this HB 10 clearly had multiple options, but when I expressed more interest in her than just sex, she dropped the other fools and hung around me until I made her mine. Basically the way I see it now is out of all the AFC's chasing her, The PUA stood out, I put my skills to work and got the girl I wanted. I feel like a baller now, not jealous. I'm not dating the town slut, the other fools are just jealous I got the HB 10 and they didn't.

My girlfriend is a sexy bitch. Attractive people have sex. So all in all to anyone else struggling with that issue just remember who she chose. And as far as my standards, well they're outdated for a college student. It isn't that she didn't meet my standards it's that my standards weren't realistic for an HB 10 that's in college.

Touche`. I guessed not too many people with sexuality issues would have the confidence to swing either!

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