I was curious when getting a number do you use paper or your phone? I hand them my phone, has worked for me. But i have noticed alot of people hand over paper and a pen. Is this weird in a club to have a pen and paper on you?

Also why im on the topic, does anyone here keep a black book of openers ect, shit to write down so its with you to glance at before opening a set?

Thanks.

Phone. Carrying around a pen and paper is a little awkward in a bar or club plus I don't like to take the chance that her handwriting is so messy that I can't even decipher the number after I get it.

Although chances are that she won't know how to use your phone unless she has the same model so just make sure you go to the add contact screen before you just hand it over to her.

Paper...AychQ, I think you're missing a golden opportunity here.

You don't need a pad of paper, you don't even need a pen. If you want to securely close and reduce flakiness then have her write her number down. Here are the steps and then I'll explain why these steps work.

So you're talking to a girl. You "time bridge" and want to hang out at a later date. It's about that time when you would normally exchange numbers.

1. Take her by the hand and walk over to the bar. Don't ask her to come. Don't even tell her you are exchanging phone numbers. Simply grab her hand and walk her over.

2. If you don't have a pen, ask the bar tender. Grab 2 bar napkins and hand one to her.

3. Tell her you want to exchange numbers old school style. Also tell her you want her to write something creative so you remember her when you look back at your little napkin. I will usually either write something funny or draw a picture. For example. If we talked about cooking dinner I might write "this ticket is redeemable for 1 dinner and 2 glasses of wine." and then write my name and number underneath. Or I have drawn stick figures of us holding hands and put our names above each figure and written my name and number. It is corny, but it is a lot more memorable than handing your phone over and having her type it in.

4. Tell her if she doesn't write something clever you won't be calling her. Girls can't think on the spot so you can applaud any effort outside of just writing her name and number.

Once she gives you her napkin, put it in your phone soon after so you don't loose it.


This secures the number because she is now invested in this a little more than she normally would. It is also more creative than the average guy is willing to produce, and girls meet average guys all the time. The assertiveness of just grabbing her hand and pulling her over to the bar is big points. Whenever they look at that napkin, they will remember you more than just looking at your name in their phone. I guarantee she will hang it on her fridge or keep in on her dresser like nearly every girl I give these to. I have a shoebox full of them just for kicks.

This is gold, so try it out...

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Nice one, I going to try soon!
I always exchange with my mob...
Your way is much more fun and it is indeed creative!

Thanks Roofas

Wow thanks guys, this made things a bit easier to understand. Oh and also starting to love this forum. Looks like a good community. Thanks

Glad you guys enjoyed that little suggestion. I like to share my ideas when I can.

If you want, check out my blog. It has a lot of my ideas that I experiment with and just stories about pick up in general...you might enjoy it or find it useful!

http://thedatingcroniclesoftylerd.blogspot.com/

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Personally, I don't get the whole pen and paper thing. I don't want to have to carry anything extra with me when I'm out, and I always have my phone. Also, whether you get her number via phone or pen and paper isn't going to really change whether she flakes or not.

Just my 2 cents

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well you don't have to carry anything extra. Just get a pen from the bar tender. And I think having her write her number down, and having a tangible item for her to keep does help prevent flakiness...and I've come to that conclusion from experience, not from just imagining how it could happen.

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Bachelor, that was very awesome. I am sure it will work wonders. One piece of advice for Mr. Monarch: anything you can do to intrigue the female before the exchange (and even during the exchange) helps drastically on whether they flake or not. You never want her to leave with the understanding that you are just like other guys. That is why Roofas's advice is so good. It makes you stand out. It raises the possibility that you can get that second chance to impress her. That is great especially when she thinks that you have potential to impress her like you just did with this corny (yet effective) technique. . .

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Paper is great, a classic "trick" is ask her for her email, while she writing her email, tell her "also write your phone number".

It's AWESOME
(actually haven't used it for quite a while, but I remember it worked great for me)

That just shows you are desperate. IF she liked you and you built enough attraction, she would write it anyways.