So, I started dating this girl and one of my friends (not really a friend) is getting in my way. I introduced him to this girl one night when we were all hanging out in a bar and after a few times of hanging out with me and her, he gets her number. I didn't really care at the time because I thought he just wanted to be friends with her. I didnt expect him to ever call of text her.... The other day I asked her out and she said yes... But even though this guy knows that I like her and she likes me... he still talks to her. I went out of town for one day and he hung out with her all day by the pool... Still, I didn't want to be the jealous guy and I let the whole thing slide... until the next happened...
He conveniently leaves his car at her place and rides with her to my place so we all can go out together... At the end of the night, I drive us back to my place. At that point she was ready to go home to sleep.. and of course he needed to go with her because his car was at her place.. I was still ok with the whole thing... I didn't think anything would happen... When they got to his car, he tells her he needs some contact solution or something for his contacts... so he comes up to her apartment and stays there... Incidentally, I wanted to talk, so I decided to call her... and thats when she told me he was STILL AT HER PLACE!! This is THREE hours after we left the bar... She then invites me over and I decide to go to her place just because I felt it was wrong of him being there at 3 am alone with her in her apartment. So when I got there all the lights were off and they were both in her room. The dude was laying on her bed and the LIGHTS WERE OFF... I still act all cool and she tells him to get out and sleep in the living room. When he left, I asked her what just happened and why was he in her room, on her bed with lights off. She said he was just talking to her about his ex and stuff... and she didn't think it was too weird of him being there alone with her.

What do you guys think about this?? How should I deal with this guy?

Why are you hanging out with him? Are you even his friend? Tell him to get lost. If she is bringing him, tell her don't.

I don't see why you are hanging out with him if you aren't even his friend.

Honestly dude I would probably give the guy a flogen, not out of jelousey but just for the shear disrespect. Though I can be a harsh man and its probably not the best advice.

It sounds like she's messing with you abit though. I know girls can do some dumb shit at times but they have a brain in there head. I dought there sleeping together behind your back though because she wouldnt have invited you over. I'd say she's trying to make you jelouse.

Think of it as one big shit test. Though if you dont like it dont put up with it either. I've been faced with some shit test that just make me roll my eye's and give the girl the flick before.

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If he's not your friend just kick him out.

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I thought he was my friend... but the more and more I hung out with the guy, the more I realized he was a cockblocking douche. I met him before I met her. He acts all nice when girls are not around.. but anytime I start talking to a girl... the dude just tries to interrupt and cockblock. One problem with me telling him to fuck off is the fact that the girl I am seeing thinks we are good friends and also she is friends with him now...

Yeah it's a hard one dude. I used to have a mate who would continually interupt and cut me off in set. Haha I"ve considered raping him to make up for the amount of sex he's cost me lol. But back to the point.

Is he a PUA? And if so, is he any good? Can this guy out game you?

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Oh man this is so rough.Are you dating her for a long time ?
If she's gonna cheat,this guy did you a service,you didn't invest more than you should.
Look i'm no pro,maybe other guys see it another way,but if i was in your place i can do 2 things :
-i try to accept,situation makes me AFC,bad ending
-keep it open relationship,invest less and less

Is this a shit test ?How can you accept a shit test like this in a relationship ?
Talk to her about it,maybe the girl doesn't want to get exclusive.

I know she wouldn't have done anything with him... she is not that type. She is just too damn friendly with people. I was more worried about what he was doing. And we've been talking for about 2 months, but just started dating officially couple days ago. And maybe it was a shit test, but why would she do it at this point? I didn't act too jealous, I just told her that it was weird and disrespectful of him being there at 3 am...

ok dude since u got this one it shouldnt be too hard to get a few more, go out and pick up and close a few other girls and see if this girl is still so special to you, if she is then u have every right to be angry, but if not, screw her and ur not so much a friend

ur on this site to be a PUA not some guy obsessed with one girl and every guy she may or may not be fooling around with to get you mad

all in all best advice, there are too many fish in the sea to be worried about a girl that had another guy in her bed

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Well my advice is if you just keep cutting the line at the first sign of trouble, you won't learn anything!

If you really think this girl is as good as you say, then you have nothing to worry about if you are the more attractive guy. Sounds like this guy will do everything AFC, she will eventually see what it's all about - you can talk about their time together, and you can tell stories about him that indirectly tell her that you two aren't that great friends.

She's probably really nice, and figures a really good friend wouldn't try to hit on the girl of his friend, and she's just helping him out. Seriuosly, who picks up by talking about their ex? She's becoming his mum.

The way you are talking, you're afraid he will magically make her have sex with him against her will!! That won't happen! Unless you are afraid of him getting violent, the situation will take care of itself IMO. As long as you are the better boyfriend. She will be talking about how he keeps calling and coming over, and you will just shake your head silently. If it gets really bad one day and she's saying what crazy thing he did, you'll confess you haven't known him for that long and he's only just started showing this side of himself.

Basically the situation you want to aim for is that you act like you have all the power and he tries harder and harder and keeps shooting himself in the foot - all the while you are just a nice loving boyfriend to her.