I've been trying pick-up for a bit but with no lair, so I have no one but this forum to look to for improvement. So a week ago I met this girl when I was hammered outside of a bar and we ended up going to mcdonald's. We hung out for the first time sober at this Mexican place and a few of my female friends showed up, I ended up naturally talking to them and forgot about my date, and the girl invited one of her guy friends to talk to her. She ended up leaving him and I walked her home. No kiss close, I became a pussy and felt like I didn't really seal the deal with me forgetting about her. I just invited her to go see fireworks with me on the 4th. I told her she might not be able to make it to the show because she gets off of work right before but she said "I'll call you when I get out of work anyways just in case." Is this an IOI? Completely lost here but I know if I don't seal the deal this time, I'm in LJBF zone.

Oh yeah, I know I'm an AFC. HELP!

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Dude, it happens to the best of us. I have off days still. Big no no completely ignoring your target. She's probably confused now, a kiss really would have cleared things up for her. Now she just thinks you're not into her. Since you totally forgot about her, you probably aren't. But anyway, the ball is in her court now, she said she'd call you after work, so stop worrying about it. Either she'll call and you can make some on the spot plans if she misses the fireworks, or she won't call because the switch is now off. I think you're either going to get totally blown off or she'll give you another chance to escalate. I don't think you're at the friendzone yet.

Agreed it is true we all get off days or times when we know what we need to do, but we are just not in the right frame of mind to do it... or you over analays things (i suppose thats one of the downsides to being a pua, a natural just does it, a pua analys the way it works and then does it hahaha....!)
Depends, ignoring the target can be good, but not really at this stage.
Yep.. he should have kissed her thats would have sealed the deal for sure lol
No one can know for sure, but from the way you framed it seems pretty likely she will call you.. if she genuinly didnt want to see you again she would probably have probably said something either then or later like "i am washing my hair on the 4th.."

Well said.
Are you from the 80's? No one says that anymore. They just tell you to text them and then they don't respond. Yeah, you're supposed to ignore your target for a bit, but after she tries to get your attention, you ARE supposed to give it back to her. It's hard to tell if she'll call. Three days away? I'm guessing she'll "forget" by then. I'd invite her to do something in the mean time, but I might make myself too available. I love my honeys!

thanks guys. I'm going to stop worrying so much about it, i'll contact her today just to "remind" her but if I get no notification about the 4th, I'll move on. I have a bad habit of developing One-itis.

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Yeah, other PUA's might say texting her "Are we still on for the 4th?" is a sign of insecurity, but when it's a few days out, people just forget shit. I forget I'm supposed to go to my friend's birthday party if they don't remind me, and that's kind of a big deal.

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to those that answered. We ended up hanging out on the 4th but it was with a bunch of guys. I messed up the first time we chilled. She was by herself and I should have closed then. Anyways thanks for all the help guys. I'm dropping her, she started talking to me about this other guy she's into and there's no point in me staying around. Still appreciate all the help though!

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What? Your serious? Why are you gonna drop her? she showed a huge sign by showing up the 4th and, by talking about some other guy, she is just showing that you need to escalate things with her.... IMO

i'll keep in contact and see again, but i think its done.

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I'm sure you know better than anyone, YOU were there. It does sound like you're officially in friendzone. Sucks, that happened to me a few weeks ago.

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