ok long story short

this girl i met in class, i am really interested in her and i thought she was interested too because i kept getting signals from her

we flirt/talk during class but dont' do anything after except maybe more talk

but now i get the feeling that i am stuck in friends zone and that i find her ignoring me but still flirts with me whenever i talk with her

i just don't know what to do and seriously it's fucking with my head.

i know you guys might think it's another example of a loser with oneitis and i know that it is but i just can't seem to forget about her

and the remedy of fuck 10 other girls won't help at all because i am still a V and have had only one other relationship in my life...

someone help with some advice on what to do and how to forget about her...

start talking to other girls in the class, if you sit near the girl you were talking to, sit somewhere else and she will notice that, and if you are talking to another girl, she might get jealous or she might not, dont know her personality so its only a guess

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i just don't understand what happened

at first she was the one initiating conversation and now most of the time ignores me, i'm the one now whose saying hey what's up blah blah blah

but when i do talk to her she flirts and sends signals

that is why i'm so fucking confused.

i don't want to chase after her, it's just my fucking head keeps telling me that i have chance.

also the other problem is that in class it's all ugly girls, although there is this other chick i talk to but she is very annoying and i always thought that she kept getting in my way from having an oppurtunity with the one i'm interested in

so from now on do i just ignore her and stop talking to her or do i still need to initiate convo

as you can tell, i'm fairly new to this, but i just can't stop feeling this way.

i want to go met other girls but i'm not the wild type who goes out a lot, occusionally i do try to go out to pubs with friends but end up getting nothing.

In this case,

I would just kick back,

seem important Like you have other shit to do,


then every, I mean every once in a while say Hi,

but Im sure she had something going on now, or something to cause an attitude change, unless you did something that you didn't notice,

best of luck.

-R

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thanks a lot for the advice R

i was thinking of just ignoring her for a while see how it goes.

i mean it's not like i'm getting her now so if i don't talk to her maybe it'll make me feel better

i've read some of posts and some guides here and now i've realized that i shouldn't be the one chasing instead she should be the one wanting me because i've got something to offer or something like that

anyways i'm hoping to read through most articles on this site and learn from other peoples experience on what to do on each situation and also go out and learn for my own.

Sounds to me like your the cat and she has the string now you gotta fllp the roles and take dash's advice.

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honestly imo dude. the best way to get out of the friends zone when you're truly in it and if it's at all possible to get out is to start talking other women but dont' completely ignore her.. just to make her see what she's missing and have create sexual tension and have sexually charged conversations. If you don't have experience creating tension or sexually charging conversations you're going to need some practice to succeed with that.. when done right you can keep just about permanently out of the friends zone. The only reason not to hook up with them though is if they provide hotter friends

good luck dude and go get her.

ya i really need to get my life on track..

one relationship so far is so fucking pathetic and the lack of experience is embarassing enough.

from what i've read so far, everything that i did with her was wrong and the only thing i did was lower my value to her and maybe that's the reason she ignoring me.

what i'm trying to figure out now is to get her out of my head.

You are right about that DLV. This is an automatic "i own you" kind of thing. Also did you ever kino her? you never mentioned it? Using body language and some talking is how you handle that. PLus what everyone else said
hope my two cent help

Tommy "gunz"

If you read MM/Magic Bullets/The Game, you will understand EXACTLY what happened, why it happened, and what YOU can do to prevent it from happening again. If you aren't willing to pick up those materials, then please go about your life now being AFC. If you want women (beautiful ones), then listen to my advice.

Hell, you can get Magic Bullets for free...lol I bet you can get "The Game" at barnes and noble so just sit there and read it free as well.

ya i just got Magic Bullets and The Game, and i have no idea what MM is.

and corvettefan86, i didn't even know what kino meant until i got to this site.

sad i know

MM = mystery method.......the guy that neil strauss (the game) learned everything from

Alright buddy your stuck in the friends zone it sounds like because you are not building kino more than likely. Touch is a powerful thing if you casually touch a women and kino escalate you will communicate to her that you like her in a sexual way. She won't be able to look at you like a friend because her mental state will look at you differently. Also don't be overly nice to her, and kiss her ass. Keep your options open we are trying to have rewarding social relationships with lots of people and women. Don't limit yourself because it's just plain stupid. Plus if you started in with comfort before attraction you haven't built anything up with her except ahh he's fun to talk to. So she see nothing romantic about you.

what i want to do right now is get back at her not get back with her

the past couple of days i've mentally noted everything i hate about her and believe me it's a long list.

noone's perfect haha

The best way to get her back is to pursue other women, and ignore her. Don't let it bother you that you dislike her, and find other girls. Don't take any cheap shots at her or other girls will not feel safe with you.

p.s. If you do anything to go out of your way to get her back you're making yourself look bad, and killing you chances with other women.