No girls are, I'm not the naive AFC I used to be. I've been in a relationship with this girl for a bit under two months now, and things are generally good. She is amazing in bed, but I know she's slept with a lot of guys for her age (she's 18 and it's the same amount of guys- she told me this). I also realise that would play a major role in why she's so good, but it bothers me (last night she said that she likes it when guys cum on her face, I don't want to think of past guys doing that!). I want the experienced virgin, haha.

Do you think this is an inner game issue of my own? Has anyone else on here experienced similar feelings? Sometimes I also feel like a bit of a 'trophy' for her, she sometimes introduces me as XX from Xband, and is always wanting me to wear certain things that she likes.

Apart from that things are good, she's a really good looking girl and we get along well, but I can't shake those feelings. Outside thoughts would really appreciated!

Yes it is an inner game issue. either jealousy over her, or jealousy that you may not have been as wild in your past. i think we all suffer it at some point. dealing with it usually means you'll then get to try some of the freakiest sex you can imagine. remember. you may be number 18 (52 in my current case...) but as long as there isn't a 19 (53 in my case), it's all good.

as for the numbers = better lays. not always true. the two REALLY high partner number girls i've been with have been pretty average. it all depends on WHY they've had high numbers (an esteem issue on the girls part will mean the bulk of those numbers are low value guys with no skills)... how sexual the girl is to start with. The biggest freak of a girl i've slept with had only had 3 partners before me, but a very very vivid imagination... or even HOW the numbers came about.

17 one night stands will teach a girl less than 4 years worth of Long term relationships with sex every night, spread across 3 guys.

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"4 years of Long term relationships with sex every night,"

I dont believe that anyone, woman or man, had such experience.
I think it is impossible for psychical or physical reasons..

Could very well be both of those, I imagine. I like to think that I'm not the jealous type, but in reality I certainly can be. I was also a bit of a late starter (I was VERY AFC for a long time, and coupled with that I also have very high standards.. this resulted in my staying a virgin until I lucked out at 20, had my heart broken and then discovered the pick-up community) and even though she's four years younger than me she was having sex two years before me. Probably due to the fact that I wasn't getting any for so long I've always been a bit dark on girls who were sleeping with lots of guys who weren't me. I guess I have a bit of inner game stuff to work on and hopefully I can move forward from this.

All of her ex partners that I know of were lower value guys than myself, but they were also all band guys. Confidence thing on her part/trophys do you think?

If we talk averages, it's easily do-able. my last LTR was sex 2-3 times a day, most days.

but even if it's sex once a week, it's still clearly more than 17 one night stands. and that was my point.

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I hear you. i was the same (lost it at 19).

confidence related? probably. most girls i know that started early/had heaps of guys tend to have had confidence issues. but not knowing her, i can't say for certain.

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Im in the EXACT same situation as you buddy, exactly. Down to the last word. Actually, if you wanted to PM me go right ahead. I'll give you my take on my situation and we can maybe help each other out. We can both agree that this isnt a healthy way of thinking...but it wont make this feeling just go away. this has been the big struggle with me. I lost my virginity not too long ago and I've always looked at my peers from afar having sex and enjoying life while I stagnated...and I was plain and simply bitter. Now that my state of mind has totally changed, the bitterness never went away. Im in a totally different situation in life but I look at a girl who's sexed other guys that shows interest to me and I think, "Oh, guess im just another guy she wants to fuck. Lucky me." And I leave, I know it's fucked up but this feeling is so engrained in me, it feels natural for me.

You'll never be the ONLY guy she's been with.

so aim to be the BEST guy she's been with. find out her fantasies she hasn't forfilled, and forfill them well.

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This shit will destroy you guys, i was going through it not so long ago and basically had to think about it alot.

You dont wanna lose a girl you love over this

The past is the past so what

I also think its abit of envy cos i didnt sleep around much either.

Lets be honest if we could have slept with a different HB every night we would have, girls just get it easier.

At least you dont have faces to put to those 18 guys


seriously tho its a imature trait and once your over it you will feel so much better. For LTR you wanna know everything abotu ur partner if its gonna be "forever" so hard as it may be once you swallow it you can get passed it n focus on the now not the then.