so every once in a while a man will come by a girl who seems worth your attention, how do you guys deal with that type of girl? the one who has every guy talk to them, some obvious that they would do anything for her and some that say things to her occasionally and then the one that may not pay any attention to her.

Im finding it difficult to juggle the wanting to talk to her and then forcing myself to not give much attention.

This girl is from work and today was pretty good, I was checking out my work schedule and she said about 2 comments on random things and I followed that up with regular confident voice tone. then when i was about to head to my work zone she says to me " are you going to work here " in a interested way. ( because she was working right in front basically)

she was laughing alot today and she would look at me w/o me initiating any sort of communication.

do you guys have any idea how i should go about this? remember that every dude wants a piece of her. I have played the tough avoidant type so far

Set yourself appart from the other guys, one way is ignoring her, and keep ignoring her, i know it sounds strange, but every other guy jumps when she says jump! by ignoring her she will try and get your attention and start working for you

pretty much what it is.. if you're not showing her attention like any other guy out there, curiousity will come to her.. she wants to know what is wrong with you because you're not giving her attention, so simply put, she will begin to DHV in front of you.. but you need to control the situation and the girl.. make sure that when she does come to you, play mysterious.. don't give out a lot of stuff.. control every conversation... now at the same time, make sure that you don't come out as a jerk.. and then she will lose interest because she could get the other guys in the office instead..

the rest are all kissing her ass and she probably enjoys the attention,but know this,beneath it all she regards them as brain dead imbiciles,dont do what they do

Neg her alot. Show a lot of IODs
IODs are meant to show that you are not intrested in her, Neg is just a type of IOD.
If you will neg enough and IOD she will be attracted to you. Maybe if you will tell you are gay it will completely disqualify you and it will be easier to seduce her.

One good technique is to notice something about her and give her a nickname that only you two know.

Ex-
she carries large purses-"purse girl"
she buys designer clothes -"high maintenance"
she always hangs around the copier/ fax machine "copy/fax girl"

you get the idea

Find something that is noticeable and give her a nickname. Doesn't have to be condescending but funny is always a plus.

Just like everyone else said, disqualify yourself from her. Unlike every other guy, you're not impressed. But it seems like she's already at least a little interested in you. She notices that you're different and wants to win you over. IoD her and neg her, but make sure you give enough IoIs back at her so that she'll keep chasing you. Make it seem like you're just barely within her reach, and make sure she's always questioning whether or not she's won you over. The longer and harder you make her chase you, the more attracted and attached to you she will get.

Good Luck!

Set yourself appart from the other guys, one way is ignoring her, and keep ignoring her, i know it sounds strange, but every other guy jumps when she says jump! by ignoring her she will try and get your attention and start working for you [/quote]


lol yea It does sound strange, although would you say to ignore her somedays and others give attention? even if we have talked a bit should i keep ignoring her?


@ young pimpin what would be a good example of making her question whether or not shes won me over? im assuming negging at appropriate times and ignoring her, along with IOD's


@ granny 11 she usually wears a flower on her hair haha, so what about flower girl? or would that be a IOI??? lol also she's usually loud, laughs loud and has men kneeling over her, even one of my freinds was acting strange and trying to act like a bad boy with me when she was near me. I though of pua and kept my cool and just responded in a calm tone making him look akward.


Ill most likely see her on saturday or sunday at work, ill definately update on the situation, maybe it will help others eventually.


I do agree with you guys that its time to neg, and show IOD. some examples would be nice as im rusty in this area where you gotta get down to business. thanks again pua's!!

I have been in this exact position!! Except I was the girl being gamed by my (now boyfriend).

I met BF because I was dating one of his work colleagues who was so AFC it's not even funny. He would do EVERYTHING I asked but I think he only wanted me as a trophy girlfriend because everytime I would try and talk to him about serious things that were on my mind or something, he would be like "yeah babe" and he never really was on my level intellectually. He sort of forced me to dumb myself down for him. I also always got hit on by his other work colleagues and friends and they would do anything I so much as hinted at - it was fun for a bit but then I just got bored of walking all over these guys

ANYWAY, obviously (now) BF knew that we were dating and he tells me now that he wanted me from our first meeting but he bided his time. BF ran "stealth game" on me for a long time. He would neg me, escalate kino, keep an air of mystery around himself while constantly DHVing himself and subtly DLVing the guy I was dating and the other guys who followed me around. He used the push pull theory strongly and it is what made me se attracted to him. He would also LISTEN to me when I spoke to him about serious issues and he was definitely intellectually on my level (if not a little more so ) I loved that I could actually talk to a guy about serious issues which were important to me and that he actually seemed to care about them too. We had some great debates about issues and he would respect my point of view. It felt like I wasn't just a "pretty face" to him which is how other guys tended to view me.

We became very close friends and I left the guy I was dating and was single again. One night, we went out for dinner togehter (as friends). I had an awesome time - BF made me laugh and intrigued me with his PUA games (the CUBE and other personality tests - five lies games, etc) and I constantly wanted to know more about him. He kept holding back, but as soon as he felt he was losing me a bit, he pulled me right back in by revealing a little something about himself.

We sort of began seeing each other and I had developed feelings for him and I knew they were reciprocated. The most frustrating thing to me (but it also kept me coming back for more!) was that he wouldn't kiss me. Everytime we were in the moment or something, he would pull away. It drove me CRAZY! When he FINALLY kissed me (on our 5th "date"), it was unbelievable.

He then showed LMR before we were about to have sex, pushing me away again! Of course, this drove me crazy! But the night we did finally have sex was the most amazing night of my life and we have been together ever since (more than 2 years).

So there is a little bit of advice for you if you are planning on having a relationship with this girl and if she is anything like me then this is how you can get her.

Good luck! Hope this helps.

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Great advice ^^^

Flower girl is a good one. It won't be an IOI unless you indicate that you think it makes her look good in some way. Merely stating that she wears a flower is not an IOI. I would say something along the lines of

"Hey, is that a lucky flower or something? I hereby declare you the flower girl."

"Did you steal that from somebody's lawn this morning? You did, didn't you! I hereby declare you the flower girl." (nice little neg/ false disqualifier in there)

Only refer to her as flower girl for a while. If there comes a time when you want to demonstrate interest, then use her real name. You can control the when/ where which is good.

If she seems flirty with the other guys, nickname her "the pickup artist" (the irony here is amusing). Say something like,

"My god, I see you throwing your game at all of these guys right and left! Have you been watching that one TV show? I hereby declare you the pickup artist"

From here, I would establish a point system for how good her "game" is.

Great advice ^^^

Flower girl is a good one. It won't be an IOI unless you indicate that you think it makes her look good in some way. Merely stating that she wears a flower is not an IOI. I would say something along the lines of

"Hey, is that a lucky flower or something? I hereby declare you the flower girl."

"Did you steal that from somebody's lawn this morning? You did, didn't you! I hereby declare you the flower girl." (nice little neg/ false disqualifier in there)

Only refer to her as flower girl for a while. If there comes a time when you want to demonstrate interest, then use her real name. You can control the when/ where which is good.

If she seems flirty with the other guys, nickname her "the pickup artist" (the irony here is amusing). Say something like,

"My god, I see you throwing your game at all of these guys right and left! Have you been watching that one TV show? I hereby declare you the pickup artist"

From here, I would establish a point system for how good her "game" is.

i'm having the same trouble as this although a minor difference, I'm going to stick it on another thread so not to steel the thunder of this one, would really appreciate your thoughts.

UPDATE*

lol nothing major, just giving a head up on the situation. I finally ran into her again today at work, this is how it went

HER: act like your doing something so you can ring me up( playfulish)
ME: what???, Oh(surprised) im not going
HER: I only got 5 minutes PLEASE (laughing and whinning)
ME: Im not gonna help you (smirk)
HER(breaks down and laughs )

after that i just went over and helped her because I gotta, although i didint make it easy for her haha. she said a few things i cant remember(small chat) and i walked out and she reengaged my comment lol.

I didint see her till she had to walk pass my area to leave, she basically smiled and kept it 4 secs or so if i had to count while saying bye have a good night !)

so what do you guys think? did i do this right or maybe i did it wrong? I feel like it was done well and opened this up for me to IOD and tease her alot. opinions as always welcomed, thanks again pua's!

@girlfreindof pua: great post, alot of people including me could use that information to help ourselves out, thanks. I think the major part of what got you was the negging with the mix of kino and keeping himself mysterious at other times.

Im not sure but why not say something to her about the other guys, like if they do something for her you could say

"wow so how many bitches have you got? *gesture to the guy with a cheeky smile*"

"Jheeez, you really have a leash around that one! haha"

Im not too sure about these whether they be negs or something or they may put you in the friend zone? so how bout more opinions!