So, in other words, you're saying that you've already talked to her about it, and she doesn't like it, right?

If so, again, how SERIOUS are you with her? Is SHE the one that you REALLY want to be with?

Oooooooooo, I just noticed something. You're post to start this thread says she's your first official pickup.

Hence the problem . . . ONEITIS.

Depends on why you want to be a PUA. If you are interested in being a PUA so you can fuck lots of girls, then yeah, you're basically where you say you are. If you are in it to find a girl that you can have a relationship, then either this girl isn't fulfilling your needs and so she isn't that girl and you're losing by staying with her. If she is what you want and you are in it just to find that girl, then you don't need to keep gaming. Put it on hold indefinitely and if you break up, then get back into it.

To be honest

Im in the same boat, BUT I also have my "alter-ego"

My avvie is far different from who I am 9-5.

Friday and saturday nights are "guys" nights, and sundays date night

Why let pure talent go to waste?

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So . . . you have a g/f . . . or you're married?

Be very very careful with 3somes. Make sure your girl is %100 gameing with you because JEALOUSY is the strongest emotion, and if you give the slightest notion you are digging the other girl more GAME OVER. Most woman can not handle 3somes period, YES there are swingers but this is a WHOLE different subject from PUA.

Hopefully you trust one another enough to experience other woman together, but be careful you are playing with fire, and you could get burned!

Hi Chelsea. Good, accurate thoughts. Just curious . . . who are they aimed at? lol

i think being a pickup artist is a social tool that can be used for anything but here it is being honed toward getting women. if you have a girlfriend i wouldnt go into the seduction faze at all. other than that though, i would see it ok to practice the other skills to learn how to build relationships as "just friends". remember, you should love your girlfriend with all your heart. dont be sharing it with just anyone you meet. but use the tools you have learned to build yourself socially and your value toward her.

Unless, Lucid, your girl likes to play with other women too, as in 3somes, as mine does.

Lucid,

Thanks for that reply; it makes
a lot of sense to me. I think I'll
follow that tip .

Everyone else, thanks for your
answers--I'm not married, but
I do like this girl a lot. I wouldn't
say I have oneitis though; I feel
like if we broke up, I would be upset
for about 3 days then I'd most likely
move on.

Yes, she IS my first "official pickup."

you can meet/attract other girls as long as you don't bang them... thats what I will do... I always want to have the skill so in case something falls out with a girl im dating i can move on easily and quickly

Ummmmmmmmmmmmm . . . being upset for 3 days does not "not a oneitis" make, lol. That probably sounds completely confusing.

In lay terms . . . if it's not oneitis, you wouldn't be upset for 3 days. In fact, you wouldn't be upset beyond the two of you walking away from each other, or hanging up the phone. If she' not a oneitis for you, the instant it's cut off you will think to yourself . . . NEXT!!!

The fact that you would be upset for 3 days shows you have a LOT invested in her already.

Basically, to me, it sounds like your still the AFC that jumped in deep with the first "bite" that you got. Maybe this girl actually is what you are really looking for in a girl, but the fact that you are questioning it doesn't sound like it.