| Hey guys, I've hit a sticking point. I've been practicing my game on our cute server girls at work and I was doing really well a couple nights ago on a solid 8 cutie. I didn't really "Open" per say, since we already know each other, so I went straight into attraction/comfort building. Which to me, seemed like a good idea. Not sure if it's really congruent with the Mystery Method or not, but like I said, it was working.
Anyways, I was throwing Negs and receiving IOIs all night long; she was even checking me out a couple times. Even my manager (wingman) was noticing it and surprised at my quick success. However, I feel as though I got stuck on Negging. Even though it was just practice, and due to some fluke, it worked. I know that if I go out and start sarging in the field for real that I will probably not be able to get away with that.
Even though it was a somewhat difficult venue for conversation, and not really at all realistic to bounce, isolate, ect. I know I probably still could have done more. Near the end of the night I missed a pretty big IOI I think too. I'll need your opinions on this one though to verify to myself. She has a boyfriend, which I only really see as an obstacle, not a problem. She's been with him for a couple months, but when I asked her about the relationship (again, rookie mistake, I know) she seemed hesitant to talk about him and when she did she didn't seem too enthused or happy that I'd brought him up in conversation, so I see that has a positive. Then after she kind of put him off, she asked me: "Why do you ask?" - Not expecting that follow up question I made up some BS story about how they started when I got back from school and blah blah blah...she walked away unimpressed and I more or less lost the target for the night.
What I'm asking is:
How do I bridge from Negs to more solid attraction building?
Side questions:
Was her blowing off the relationship question a positive?
Was her asking why I had asked (in a playful, flirtatious way) an IOI?
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