Ok so here is what has happened thus far: My ex and I didn't talk for like a year straight after we broke up. Then one night I am at a party at my buddies house and shes there! So we finally talk, drink and hangout together. She told me still wants to be friends and stuff. Then when everybody at the party leaves and the rest fall asleep we end up staying up all night in a bed talking. Shes is doing this medical intership in NY till august 1st (FYI we live in GA, so its really far away) I really wanted to see her again before she leaves so two night later I was going to a party so I invited her. Shes comes and we both have a great time. Then we end up laying in a bed together talking and joking with eachother. We didn't do anything except talk....then we both fell asleep. We both woke up the next morning, I walked her to her car and gave her a goodbye kiss. Shes been in NY for 2 weeks now. We have been texting/talking over the phone and facebook chatting. She is an awesome girl, I care about her a lot, we are both really compatible together. The only reason we broke up was b/c our colleges were too far form eachother and couldn't deal with the distance. But we'll going to be alot closer and I really want to give it second chance. What should I do??? not talk to her anymore till she gets back?? lose all hope and give up??



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my ex and I hung out after not talking for a year. We slept in the same bed one night. Shes gone to NY for 2 months. We have been texting and talking since shes been in NY. I still care about her a lot. I want to someday date her again. What should I do?????[/b]

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You should have slept with her he 1st or 2nd night, or both..

You're building up the trust part of the relationship, but you're forgetting to build up the sex part of it too.

Ok Thanks for you advice!! I will work on that when shes gets back. Do you have any idea on what I should do now that she is in NY?

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continue meeting other women, but keep talking to her on the side. When she gets back, for good, focus on her and keep talking to the other women on the side.

If it works, then good for you.

If it doesn't, well you'll at least have other options, which can also create jealousy, maybe enough to get her back if Plan A fails. Or maybe things might work out well with your other options!

Remember, dont slip into the friend zone. build a sexual tension. and it's ok to talk about "how it used to be in the good days" because you're tryna become serious with her again.

And go shopping, you wanna look sexy every time you meet up with her. (well groomed, new shoes, etc) It's good to show her that you've upgraded since last time.

We all agree that its not the looks that make the big difference, but too many pple underestimate the power of fashion. For example: A man with an amazing sense of fashion can make his gf jealous just by all the other girls that look at him

Don't fall into the trap of one-itis. I'm not saying you are, but it could EASILY happen.

As others have said, keep her on the stove, simmering away, so hopefully one day she's hot and ready. But get as many other good lays under your belt as possible, don't put this one girl on a pedestal etc. If anything, use her as motivation to improve your game. That way you won't be stuck thinking about an ex who lives miles away.

Awesome advice guys!!! Thanks a lot!!!

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