Hey all.

I'm in an interesting situation that I need some advice on. I'll try to be concise as possible, without leaving out important details.

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On Friday, I went to a bar with a few friends of mine. About an hour later or so, my friend (let's call him S) invites an HB8 to join up with us (let's call her M). S makes the introductions with all of us and so when S introduces me to M, right away M had this look of interest in her eye. We shook hands and we probably locked eyes for an eternity, even though it was probably 10 seconds. We both smiled and all that.

Anyways, I ignore her at first and chat with my friends. About 30 minutes later, me and my friends are playing a drinking game and that's when I grab M gently by the arm so that she can participate with us. At first, M is hesitant but I tease her a little bit and she ends up participating.

After we play a drinking game for 30 minutes or so, I start to talk to M and get to know her. At first, I stand and talk with M but eventually I purposely pull up a stool and casually sit down with my body not completely facing her. M then inches closer towards me and I notice her body is totally facing towards me, so I take that as a good sign. I try to make an effort to slowly elevate kino with her, and I make a little bit of progress but nothing intense.

While we're talking about different topics and I ask M some questions as conversation starters, I just notice that whenever we're talking ... again, she has this look in her eye of interest. I can usually tell when a girl is interested, and I could tell she was interested even if it was all non-verbal indicators.

Interestingly enough, after we speak for almost an hour, M finds my friend -- S, the one that invited her to the bar -- and they start kino-ing like crazy. That's when I first realized she must have some interest level with S. Still, I find out through him that M is "free game" despite his apparent interest in her as well, so I took that as a green light for myself to continue to pursue.

After 30 minutes pass by, all my friends start to notice what's happening with S and M. Some of them told me I was doing real well gaming her and urged me to press on despite S ... so I decide to go with a trump card. I start chatting with M again and eventually I start dancing with her. This is where things turn in my favor because I consider myself a really good dancer. I add some Spanish flair to our dance with some spin moves and that really impressed M, as I could tell that she was really into it. We probably danced for more than 30 minutes and a friend of mine (not S, someone else) started to comment on our dancing, telling us that we were really good. In my head, I was thinking 'yes!' because I was getting social proof and DHV.

After M and I danced, she goes back to S and continues to kino with him. At this point, I'm not worried because I know I have her interested in me. This would be confirmed later that night.

Me and my friends decide to leave the bar and head to a friend's apartment. That's where things got crazy. M continued to kino with S and that's when I decided to confront her about it one-on-one. Looking back on it, not sure how I was able to maneuver a one-on-one with her the way I did, given that the apartment was tiny and S was literally a room away from us, but I talked to M one-on-one to see what the deal was.

At first, M asked me if I saw any mixers in the kitchen so that she could mix her drink. Then M started to look at me with that same look of interest I mentioned prior. Playfully, I started speaking to her in Spanish (earlier she had asked if I was fluent) and I asked her 'what do you want?' in Spanish. I repeated my question a second time, and that's when she said "you" ...

I said, "me?" and she nodded yes. I then remarked to her that she's playing games and I see what she's doing with S, kino-ing with him and looking back at me to see if I would get a rise out of it. M didn't say anything. I then asked her what she wanted to do? M didn't say anything at first, but then told me "I think you're a gorgeous guy" but added that she came with S and that complicates matters. M then asked me, "what about bros before hoes?" and I told her that if S was in my position, he wouldn't give a f*** ... (trust me, I've known S for five years, he would do what I tried to do). I told M I know the situation is tricky and then I said that she can give me her number and we can figure things out later. That's when my friends interrupted us.

I had to step out of the apartment for 15 minutes or so, but when I came back, M was sitting on a couch and S was goofing around with my friends out of sight of me and M. I then simply gave M my phone, without saying a word, but she knew what I was asking of her (the number). M refused. I asked M if she was sure and she nodded yes. I reaffirmed to her that I knew the situation was complicated but I didn't want to let her go without getting her contact information. I tried to give it about 10 minutes, then I gave M my phone again but she refused. I gave it another 10 minutes, then I simply asked her for her full name (with the intention is just adding her on Facebook) and I goofed calling her Mary when it was something else ... I caught my mistake and she was cool about it, but M wouldn't give me her last name.

At that point, I tried to figure out what to do. M got impatient with S and left the apartment about 15 minutes later, apparently about to ditch him and go home. That's when I asked a different friend (a fellow sarger) if I should bother go after her and he said I had a 50/50 chance. I went outside and I was able to catch up with M and after a few minutes, I just became honest with her and told her that I didn't want her to leave without getting a way to reach her after everything she told me in the kitchen. I tried one last time to get her number in a different way, but no luck, as M stated that she came with S and couldn't do it. That's when I told M that I respected her decision.

Before the night was over, as we were talking about something else, M tried to shit-test me because she didn't think I remembered what she did for work but I passed it ... more or less. And the irony of catching up to her outside of the apartment before she left was that she ended up taking a cab with S back home. I'm pretty sure they didn't hook up, but I can't say for certain either way. I just found it ironic because if I didn't go after her, that wouldn't have happened. *shrugs*

That's everything I think.

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My dilemma is this ... I know M is interested in me but clearly she didn't want to offend S by giving me her contact information after he invited her to come out with us. Looking back on it, I probably could have gotten her number somehow (not sure how) but I knowingly failed thrice. I thought I gamed her well but I'll admit things did taper off at the very end.

In any case, I'm 99% sure I ran into her Facebook profile so unless I'm mistaken and it's not her, I do have a way to reach her. I haven't messaged or friended her yet. My gut tells me to message her first, but I'm paranoid it may not be her and then I look like an idiot. Still, I'm pretty sure it is her and even if it's not, whatever. No harm, no foul.

The question is, what do I do? Do I message her? If so, what do I say?