Here's the situation.

A girl I've known through a buddy for about 3 years recently broke up with her boyfriend. We met a few times before and I know she always thought I was hot.

My friend told me that since she broke up, she'd always ask if I was going to be there whenever they would do something, meet in a club.

We went to a bar with a couple of friends, and she didn't show alot of interest, although she asked me to come to another bar on the next friday night.

Friday night shows up and I didn't make much of the invitation so I had other plans. She came up on facebook asking if I was going to be there, and seemed pretty upset when I told her I had other plans. She finally convinced me and even asked me if I needed a ride.

When I got there she was pretty much all over me, in a non-physical way. Her girl friend was cockblocking and they had to leave pretty soon, but she asked me to text her if I was going out the next week.

Then, a few days later, I decided to text her, I think it was a very very very bad move.


I texted her : Hey, have a nice day ! xxx

She never responded. Now I'm thinking, did she ever receive it? Or was that such a bad move that I made her uninterested...

I'm not sure if I should text her again if I'm going out..I saw on her facebook that she's going to the same club as me tonight.

Should I talk to her about the text if I see her or just ignore.

if you meet her at the club dont worry to much about the text... just have fun at the club game her and others

Yeah that's what I'm thinking, but the situation is still confusing.

That text was pure AFC...but we all slip up now and then.

From the sounds of it, she's yours for the taking if you play it right, but don't let this become some kind of soul-destroying one-itis for you.

If you do see her out, don't pay her all your attention. Pawn other sets, get pivots, cat string theory, etc etc.

Let us know how it goes man.

I went to the club and she was there with some friends.

My buddy told me that another friend of hers was way hotter and wanted to introduce me to her haha...

Anyways the girl of the topic and her two friends came by to our table and I introduced myself to this other hot girl, totally ignoring the text girl. They were leaving almost when I arrived.

I spoke with my buddy's girlfriend, who's a friend of the girl in question and she was aware of the text, so the girl definately got my text but didn't want to answer for some odd reason. My buddy's gf told me that she didn,t say anything else but just showed her the text.

Anyways I'm thinking this girl is a bit stupid, yeah the texting was AFC but the least you could do is respond with a ''thank you'' or a ''have a nice day too'' or whatever.

It's a bit stuck up and stupid to ignore my text, especially when she was all over me two days ago..Maybe in her stupid female brain she thought I wanted to be her new boyfriend and she thought my text was kind of ''intruding'' i dont know.

Tonight is one of the biggest even in our town and like 500 000 people will gather in town.


She just texted me asking if I was going to be there lol..


girls are awkward.

I was showering and when I checked my cellphone I had 6 missed alerts.


3 of em was the girl telling me we were having a bbq and wanted to know if I needed a ride ahhaha..the 3 others was my gf's buddy wich is her friend calling me three times.


It's going to be a fun night.


Bye

So, how'd it go?

Was kind of weird. Consider the fact that I didn't feel like gaming much but just wanted to party with my friends since it's the biggest day of the year and 300 000 people gather in the streets haha.

We had a barbecue before the big party and I just didn't give her much attention..Made everyone laugh and was the center of attention..I actually gave her girl friends more attention than her.

At some point during the BBQ I asked for something from her and she said playfully '' No you don't deserve it ''.

We went to the party and we had to split almost immediately after arriving.

We met up later on and she opened her arms screaming my name and I gave her a hug, she said she tried texting me but her cell didnt work.

There was a guy friend of a friend who came with us to the BBQ + Party and he was after the same girl as I, he scored her phone number after asking her to go biking someday haha..She gave me a strange look after doing so, some kind of worried look.

Anyways..I met one of my best friend and decided to call it quits, I gave her two kisses and she said ''well see each other this week''. And I peaced out.


Basically I think this girl, coming off of a 3 years relationship, is just testing the waters. I think she wants to know how much she still has and how guy still desire her.. I'll give her no attention from now on.




Also : I heard from my buddy that his girlfriend who is a friend of the girl, told him that she had thought my text was kinda bizzare and impulsive, like she was surprised I would even text her good day or something.

sounds like she playing her own game. whoever's frame is stronger and gets the other to play their game is the winner. and if u ware the winner, she is the winner. win-win (like papa)

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Alright little update.

She just came and talked to me on facebook..Here's the full convo.

I did some mistakes coming off as AFC at some points but I think I did fairly well overall in setting the frame back and not being too needy.



EDIT : I'll put the conv back later I need to edit it a bit cuz it's facebook format haha.

I'm not putting everything up here.

Basically we chatted for a while, she said she was going to the casino on friday with some of my friends, I was already invited but declined. She told me I was boring for not coming and she insisted..I told her unless I was essential to her well being (Or something similar I speak french, it was not as bad as it sounds in english and she laughed) ..I wouldn't be there.

Then she was leaving and said '' Ill see you friday'' since she invited me and I said I might make it, then I said ''I'm not sure about friday either the girls at my job have invited me to join them for dinner and we might go out after, its not set in stone though, maybe I can text you and let you know? Or would you think that's weird ''

The same night we chatted on facebook..I went out with a friend of mine to a club where 25-30 people like to go..It's full of milfs and nice looking intelligent women.

So basically in the middle of the night a friend of the girl texted me asking what I was doing, I said I was hunting some milfs or something similar.

2 minutes later I receive a text from THE girl and she says : You like them old...lol

We exchanged text back and forth and basically they were at a lousy bar with some friends of mine. So I said I might drop by and say hi. She asked how I was coming and I said flying carpet haha.

I went there and we actually got to the strippers later on because it was another friend's birthday..And she came along hahaha.

No real ioi's but she was talking to me the whole time. When I left she asked me to text her if I was coming on friday to the club..Wich I did today.

She replied 40 minutes later saying ''Yay!, sorry if I didnt respond earlier I am working''

This girl is a real puzzle. I'm not sure how I should act with this girl since she's only had one boyfriend of 3 years and she broke up with him a few weeks ago.

If I kiss her she might think I'm in love or something, she doesn't really have any experience.

Quit worrying about the text.

A text is never really going to ruin your chance with a girl if she likes you to begin with. Unless of course you insult her in the text or something equally as bad.
From what you texted her, it's not too bad. Don't worry about it.
If she is still thinking about the text that much time after she received it then she obviously has some issues of her own and is best left alone to her weird thoughts.

Chances are she would forget all about it in a day or two. Ironically a guy spends a fuck load of time thinking about sending a text, thinking what to write, wondering what she'll think and so on. And yet girls will look at that text and forget about it two days after reading it. So don't worry 'bout it so much.

You still have a solid shot. But if I were you I would try isolating her from her friends. Even avoiding the club/party environment would be good progress in getting a reaction different from "oh he's this cool guy who's friends with my friend". And more of a
"oh he's this cool guy, we've been hanging out I'm interested to see how it goes. I'm excited to see him".

Anyway it is all up to you. Good luck!

Night was odd..

I got to the club alone cuz my friend's were at this other place, there was my friend's gf though so I stayed with her a bit...Still I got there and met ALOT of people/girls I knew, I gave her a few looks and she was looking in my direction most of the time..Then we started drinking and chatting a bit..At some point we sat down and I had to ask two huge dudes to move out a bit so we could all sit. Then she asked me to take her place so she wouldn't be seating next to the other dudes..Wich I did..And then she told her friend to sit down and went to talk to another guy..I learned later that this guy is supposedly in love with the girl but she doesn't think he looks good or something similar..I was a bit pissed about the whole thing but didn't make a scene.

Then my friend's gf decided that we should leave and go see my friends at another club..So we stood up and she came over saying ''are you okay? You look mad? And then she was asking if we would see each other soon, I said yeah, she asked me to promise?????? that was kinda weird. And so we left the club.


Good thing is I went to eat at mcdonalds alone and opened a group of girl, I ate with them and they even gave me a ride home hahahah..so everything was not lost

Your over thinking everything. I feel you because I am kind of like that. Every little thing isn't as important as you are making it. Yeah there are some moments where you feel you lost them. If a girl doesn't text because she is working, she may just not want to text you back 5 hrs later, can you blame her. I don't text girls back sometimes for hours, I "forget".

She sounds like she is just like every other girl. All you need to do is isolate, talk, laugh, kino, and elevate, go in for the kiss. She is already into you the hard part is over, you just got to find a way to be alone and close.