Recently it has been really hit and miss with me.

I have no. closed a few times but it just trails off.

One thing that I was amazed about was a direct approach I did on a HB 8 and got a number close. I said something along the lines of:

me: "Hi I had to stop you, it seems like you have a really elegant style and I believe life is too short not to say hello"

HB: ah thanks blah blah blah

ME: so have you just finsihed uni then?

HB: yea blah blah ( fluff)

Me: fluff... ( take out phone to check time) Ok i am meeting some friends now. it would be good to hang out some time.

HB: yea sure

me: (did not take the hint). what is your number i'll text you sometime.

HB: sure blah blah ciao

Me: ciao


I got so excited I told some random guy about it that just walked past right after.

Then a day or so later I was going to the eco festival with music and random activity tents and asked if she was going. she said no and did not know about it.

Then later that night I was going to a free party/rave in a random field I told her about it but she was meeting her friends for a birthday.

Then I text her about how good it was the next day and no reply. I left it for a few days and received no reply and still have not. About 2 weeks later, still nothing.

Should I have arranged something sooner. Double text?

Another girl I met in the street with my mates I text for a while about random shit mostly and that trailed off as well. We lived in different cities so maybe she did not see the logistics. She was like a HB5 at best so no loss there.

Recently I went to visit my sister in Bruges where she just finished a Masters. I went to four days of parties where everyone was just going crazy after all their hard work. The place was filled with HB's. There were about 300 people at the college and everyone knew each other. I don't know why but I found it hard to even chat to people and get a conversation going especially HB's. I was thinking ' what is wrong with me, normally I am so social and the centre of attention' I met a few people but I was really struggling so I just went up to a HB3 that I knew liked me who was just having a great time and started dancing with her in a crazy way. She kept going in for k-close but I didn't feel like it. I just decided to have a good time in my own way.

After a couple of days my sisters friends started to recognise me and things got easier. But during a BBQ/party I was still just floating and walking around on my own for about 40% of the time. It does not look or feel good.

The last night things got much easier there were many girls that I just did routines on and had a bit of a flirt. One girl got quite attached with me and we ended up having a brilliant conversation and I did so many routines on her as well as genuine good talking. To be honest she was gaming me from the beginning. We ended up being the last ones out of this bar and we went for a walk, K closed on a bench. This was at like 5 am. Then she was staying at the same residents as my sister but at her door she did not want me to come in because she thinks that my sister will think that she is a slut ( she is quite good friends with my sister). So I went back to my sisters room to sleep on the floor. My sister went out in the morning and the HB rang my sisters room and invited me over. I had about one hour of sleep in total before that so when I got to her room we just kissed and had a bit of a fiddle but that was it. I was so tired anyway. After a couple of hours I went back to my sisters room and had to leave to get back home.

I understand this is an epic post but it feels quite cathartic to articulate it.

I feel I really need to up my game and be bolder with girls.

Thanks for reading.

Based on that initial number close of yours, you didnt spend enough time with her, and it seems that between the 'hi' and 'bye' it was pretty boring small talk, you didnt make her think WOW. Concentrate on building attraction by teasing her and having FUN. Give her a reason to meet up with you, you'll soon find that all this pick up theory aims purely to show her a good time and make her want to be around you more. The rest will follow naturally. Be the funnest and most interesting guy that she spoke to that night and its very rare that she will turn a meeting request down.