Okay, so I posted the initial event here: fr-customer-gave-me-her-number-no-quest ... 69521.html

I txted her the next day and today (Monday) I called her. She said she was headed into the City and would be free between her voice lessons and work and that we should get coffee. She txts me a half hour later suggesting we get food.

We got together at 3:30 near Madison Square Park and I mention that there's this place I've been wanting to go, so we head there. We talk and I'm telling DHV stories to prime the convo and then let it take it's natural course.

I made sure to be confident, good body posture, try to always be leading, some very very light negging, and I had her laughing the whole time (not sure how, b/c it wasn't really that funny; IOI!).

I also embedded future plans into our conversation (go to see the circus; recite her some Middle English poetry another time IF she's good). Then I walked with her over to her job.

We passed the Museum of Sex and this reminded me that I was lacking something in this interaction: kino and sexualized conversation! I was being a very interesting guy, yes, but also a nice guy, and I fear the evil friend-zone! I tried to sexualize durign the last five to ten minutes (nothing too overt; gotta stay congruent) but it was too little too late, I think.

Outside her job I had my one and only semi-AFC moment (but last impressions are, indeed, lasting), and said that I didn't have any work shifts until Thursday, so she should give me a ring if she wants to meet up. Then I walked away, no hug, nothing (she's shorter than me, and I'm REALLY not used to that, so it seemed awkward to try--I'm not familiar with the mechanics, lol).

Am I just overthinking the ending to this micro-date? Any thoughts? Suggestions?

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If the dream is won
Though everything is lost
We will pay the price,
But we will not count the cost.
-Rush

Congrats on the day 2.

Probably not the greatest thing to say that you didn't have any shifts until Thursday. You want women to think that you are busy, that you are a rare commidity and your time is valuable. People want things they can't have. They don't want things that are easy and free.

However, this was not your biggest problem. You could have easily erased that AFCnish if you had just ended the date with a kiss close.

You could have ended it with a kiss close if you had been using light kino from the start. I cannot emphasize how important the kiss close is.

If your date went well and she's willing to give you a second chance, then you will have another opportunity to k close. The more you delay it the harder it's going to be to climb out of the friends zone.

Thanks for the reply, Clozer.

I've got the same feeling. I'm running the next meeting in my head and I'm developing some kino strategies that should work no matter what the venue or time constraint. And I'm running through my personal experiences, and the experiences of friends to come up with some good sexual stories that should get her to start talking and thinking sexually.

I don't think it's too late at all; I've got at least one more encounter to prove myself. I gotta remind myself that she's a theater girl, so she definitely NOT as innocent as she seems, lol. I'm aiming to meet up with her again next week. But you're right, I gotta k-close next time or it's friend-zone for me.

I'm going to txt her tomorrow with a venue (probably the Cirque du Soleil show we were talking about) an then ask her to try and and next Thursday free.

_________________
If the dream is won
Though everything is lost
We will pay the price,
But we will not count the cost.
-Rush