To start off, this is my very first post and well I am in dire need of help. In order to deal with a problem one must admit they have a problem, I am an AFC. I am 19 years old and i am just fucking sick with my self, not yet once I have been with a girl neither kissed one. I am looking at my self as a total bitch. I have at one point low self esteem and am now very out of shape, needless to say, unattractive. The only reason I can think of why I am in this spot is because I had to basically quit high school, (basically meaning that I was never at school, and fucking working all the time to help my family stay in the house we live in and to help pay for sisters medical bills cause of Crones disease, family though had to) but I am not putting up a sob story. I have just started reading "The Game" a book by Neil Strauss aka "Style", along with the help of mystery. I am tired of being the nice guy who fucken doesnt get anybody, FUCK THIS SHIT! I wanna be like Neil but sooner, skinny pale guy who became a total player and shit. This post looks like I'm fustrated but I am just pissed as shit at myself. Tell me what I need to do. I am sick of this shit. I have some slight success recently, got a girls number on tuesday at a book store, I see myself as a 5, shes id def an 8/8.5. So its really offically my date, any advice I will take. she seems nice, outgoing girl, people person, likes to talk. But the date is like an 2 hr lunch date. any way i can get a kiss-close, is that a good idea, just feed me some shit. I am ready to make a NEW FUCKING LIFE, bout time that good karma gets back my way.

I'm basically one step further than you are right now... I'm deff no PUA but I can give you some advice: Go out as much as possible, doing things will give you more shit to talk about while talking to girls... just dont stay home, and also talk to everyone you can. the old lady at the store, the guy at the cash register, the girl at the register ... u get my point, talk to anyone and everyone you can. Hope that helps some until they pros see this topic lol

First off you gottra like yourself bro, if you can't convince yourself that your worth it then how are you going to convince others? Second part is partially done, you've made the distinction that there are areas of your life you need to work on aka your looks and fitness. Don't hate yourself for needing to improve we ALL have things we need to improve. Now get off your ass and do something about it. You'll find that by just changing your mood things will start happening so anything you can do right now to feel better about yourself would be a good first step. If you manage to k-close on this date that's excellent but don't let it get you down.

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"Why do we fall, sir? So that we might better learn to pick ourselves up."