So here's the situation. I went in the other day to my eye doctor to get new contacts and had the opportunity to run some game by the "eye technician" who does that device which tests all your peripheral vision out, seeing colors, etc. Well we hit it off great in just that room and I made her laugh a lot. at the end just before I had to goto see the doctor I asked her if we could go out sometime. She then said well I like your personality, etc. etc, yah that would be nice. so I gave her my business card as I had to go and told her my Cell was on there. She saw the number and all was good.

I continued with sounds good, give me a call sometime. Well I went through with the appointment with the doctor and all was cool there and got out to the reception area where she was waiting. We did some final transactions for the appointment and then decided on how I would return the following sunday to see how these new contacts were working. the doctor left and we were left alone in the room. I closed with, "how about we go out after this". She said I have to shower first and then I will call you, being very interested. I later felt weird as I pressured her a little to much initially and she was in scrubs (duh!!).

So I left and she texted me immediately after work about 1 hour later with something like here's my number it was great meeting you with exclamations etc.

This was cool and I called her and we decided on how we would meet up after she showered and got ready. well like 2 hours goes by and I"m texting wondering where she is but playing it cool with texting like it's no big deal. She then says that her Mom dropped in for a surprise and she was going to have dinner with her tonight and that we could meet up later. She keeps me wondering. So I waited it out and then never got a response the rest of the night. The next day she responds with sorry I just got talking with my Mom and it got too late. I say, lets go somewhere and have fun tonight. she is still interested and says something like where at. I give her a place and then after that I get no other response. this text was at like 11:00am. probably during a break or something.

I try to call her later that night and send a few more texts but it was dry. nothing else from her.

what do you all think happened here? why did she flake after showing a strong interest in me?


thanks
jesse

You may have acted too "needy", as in calling and texting her all the time. The first two texts may have been genuine, but when you just kept on bugging her to hang out, then she may have gotten scared off.

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This was over a 48 hr period, yes?

How many calls and texts did you end up throwing her way during that time?

+1 on the above. You may have come off too needy.

First, you should always ask for her number instead of giving yours out. Just because you want to be in control.

Second, one of the most important aspects of negotiating a time bridge is to appear as if you are unconcerned and have other options. If this was done over a 48 hour period then you probably made it look like she was the only thing that you had going on.

Next time, ask for her number, dont give her yours...this adds tension...and wait at least 4 days to text her. Use something that references your conversation.

e.g. "That band we were talking about last week just came on the radio. I cant believe you like them..." Let the conversation develop from there.

This time...wait a whole week then text her something cute like.

"Hey...what's going on in your crazy world?" or "What up fool?" or "Poke anybody's eye out today ?"

Let the conversation develop and then make sure you drop it first. Something to the effect of "Meeting some friends in a bit for some coffee. Later."

Here is a thread that details a text conversation that I had recently that led to a successful day 2

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Hope this helps, and of course the best medicine is to go out and find another girl!

Sh**T you are all right. I did pursue to quickly. damn yah I was just too excited as I really liked this girls personality and she was about a 7 at the doctors office in scrubs, prolly a 8 when dressed up.

I was going to take her out that night and give her a good time etc. She definitely acted interested but then gave excuses for going out that night.

Well here is the dilemma. she's at a doctors office and that day I made an appointment to return in a week so the doctor could see how my eyes were doing with these new contacts. That day is tomorrow. I have not texted her again or initiated anything since last tuesday. How should I act in the doctors office if she is there tomorrow?

thanks for the advice. I need to relax though

definitely relax.

i'm no pua, but the times i've had greater success with girls in the past, has been to create initial attraction, but then make myself scarce.

when i say scarce, i don't mean uncontactable. maybe one text every 5 days, and i'll see them maybe once a week, with a phone call in between. Mix it up and keep the time periods varied.

it may not be the perfect plan. but you don't invest too much time in any one girl and its much better than bombarding them with a call and a text everyday.

as for your appointment, i guess its too late for any advice now. how did it go?