Hey guys
so here is my problem
half a year ago i was at home in england (i usually study in the usa) and had something with this girl. we had seen each other a couple of times and kissed on serveral occasions. However, my friend at that time and her best girlfirend both sabotaged this relationship form developing into something more. So we kind of left each other akwardly and i went back the the states.

I am now back in england on summer brake. I am not friends with my fromer buddy anymore and as far as i can tell she isnt friends with her friend either.

This is not a oniety, but she is just dam hot.
any ideas how to initiate contact again (we left off in an akward situation: my friend sabotaged me by saying to her i loved her and was obsessed with her and shit .... :S)

i could talk to her on fb chat?
but i really have no clue what to say.

(Does your friend still go to his monthly check-ups at the hospital for that broken skull you gave him when he "sabotaged me by saying to her i loved her and was obsessed with her and shit .... :S"? Seriously though, people like that are bothersome.)

If she thinks you were in love / obsessed with her, making the situation very awkward, the most preferable situation of you two seeing each other again would be in person. (So no facebook, no texts, no phone call.) Maybe through connected social circles? Then just game her, add a bit of extra non-reactive & disinterest, but do acknowledge you two had a thing and if she responds well to being gamed, quickly drop that non-reactive behaviour. (Its main use is to make sure she won't feel awkward and want to leave because you might still be 'obsessed with her'.)

-If this isn't possible I guess you could do something like facebook, but I don't think that would be as effective. (I'm not a fan of indirect game like facebook or texts.) Things to make sure you convey are that initial non-reactive / disinterest (to make sure you're not blown out because of the obsessed thing.), but acknowledge you used to have a thing, if she responds well, drop non-reactive and game.

haha zerovalley thx, yeahh i totally agree what ur saying... good stuff. thx

yeahh he was kind of a dickhead, not the person who you want to be friends with. seriously what friend goes to the girl you have a thing for and tells her: that you are obssesed with her, and you know her text messages by heart, and that you have gf :S and not to mention thta you read books that help you give advice on how to be better with women :S

haha i think i am still not over it... i should just forget about it... i am still to emotional about it

thx zerovalley!

If I were you, be direct, you have nothing to lose if your not in contact anyway, "Hey, how are you? Long time no speak, don't time just fly when your having fun"

DHV yourself in the conversation, then use a time constraint, go for the no close if you no longer have it, bang, conversation initiated.

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