My LD-LT-GF of 6 months, has issues with me watching porn.. She is okay with me masturbating, but not watching porn..

Now, this is probably a very common issue in a relationship - and i think it should be respected that a girl does not like it..

I thought it was the right thing to do, to try to stop watching porn.. After all it's a serious relationship, and we all have to make sacrifices. Alpha or not. Also because when she got to know that i watched porn - she got very sad.. And i want to see her happy

And she was very happy, she loved it... and i get a lot of "extra SPAM" for it

And actually, it's not so bad not masturbating to porn.. I feel i can get a lot more sensual and lover-like in the relationship..

She stopped asking me about it.. untill today, she asked me how it goes with it..

I told her it was very hard, incredibly hard. And she said that she is sorry that she cant understand how hard it is..

She asked me if i still watched porn.. I didnt want to lie.. I told her i from time to time watch small clips, but after i quickly close the video - because i know i do not want to do it.. And that i have never masturbed to a video yet.. And that she should be happy about it, cause it's a very big thing.. (Only masturbate naturally)..


But she got a little bit upset anyway, i could see it in her eyes - eventhough she wont admit it.. PErhaps because she deep down know's she shouldnt feel upset, but happy that i try so much - perhaps she is very insecure, and perhaps the main issue is not that i watch porn - but perhaps something else..

So now she is sad, and she wrote "FANTASTIC -.-" on her facebook status after... but i have stopped caring about those facebook statueses..

What else can i do? OR am i doing enough already?Thanks

I would also love to hear your experiences with this issues..

You're progressing so far when it comes to the porn-watching. She got upset deep inside, but didn't wanna show it because she knows you're really trying and doing your best here.

You've probably already made your decision here: Porn... or Her.

Keep it up and just watch less and less porn every day. Eventually, you won't even notice that porn used to be a part of your life and the lust for watching creepy japanese chicks shit and puke all over each other (or whatever the hell you're in to) - will be gone.

Also, here's an interesting fact that could help you along the way: Studies have shown that males can reach a more intense orgasm through FANTASIZING and jerking off, instead of using material such as pornography.

So just close your eyes, imagine those nasty japanese chicks shitting all over the place - and enjoy the ride.

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However, if you decided that porn is more important to you - try talking to her about it and if she can't accept it, dump her. She's better of with someone that won't lie to her and watch porn behind her back.

But this doesn't seem to be the case.

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I suspect that it is not exactly the problem of watching porn that upsets her. It is the problem of you watching other woman naked.

I have a piece of advice. When feel like watching porn, do some workout to shift your attention. Instead of watching some boxing clips to make yourself aggressive when the urge to watch porn strikes. That worked for me. Men can't resist being horny (so don't fight it) but we can overwhelm it with other positive emotions.

Other than that working out is good for health.

thanks guys...

Believe me, i prefer her, to anything in the world, i prefer her.. Even porn..

And i am watching a lot less, then what i used to.. I just watch it, and then go masturbate naturally. .I just need to cut it off completely.. But i guess it's like stopping smoking, it will take time.. But i will do the best i can, and the best i can, is enough to stop it..

yeah porn can definately fuck up relationships. porn can cause unrealistic expectations in a relationship, and even weaken the bond between partners.

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Thats really immature, it leads me to think she would tell people about it too. Be careful girls talk about everything and she puts it on facebook???

About the girlfriend/porn problem, my girlfriend wasn't happy about me watching porn either but I ignored her and she ended up asking me if we could do it together. It was cool, we watched some lesbian stuff and then had sex.

Girls have to understand that the way men operate is very different from women; men like porn whether they admit to it or not-and women have to come to terms with this.

It is true that women don't like pornography in a relationship and it is a common thing. My girlfriend hates the fact that I use to watch it. My girlfriend has religious reasons for not liking porn but personal ones too.

I know lots of men who have struggled with being addicted to pornography. It is a physical addiction as much as it is a mental addiction because you associate watching porn with pleasure from masturbation and having an orgasm. If you can't give it up cold turkey or continue having problems going back to it then seriously go to a counselor about it. They can help you get over this.

Watching porn is not a big thing for us but it may be for a girl.

For them it is like, they are competing with the beauty or sexiness of the actresses. And more important in this age of equal rights, many girls find it demeaning to women...

So basically, install another web browser and make sure it has autoclean on...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Sit her down and get her to watch some with you.

i take it that you've "tried" things with her that were her idea, now it's your turn.

just be smart about what clip you use, because if she's sexually repressed, a bondage/scat/golden shower clip will probably do more harm than good.

find some of the more erotic, couples orientated stuff.

Fear is usually born of unfamiliarity. once she learns that porn can turn HER on without diminishing her love for you, she'll see things a bit clearer.

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Hi...

It has now been.. 3 weeks i think without porn.. And it's going great.. Im actually glad i did it.. Not only does it me make me feel better.. That i could overcome this thing. But also how happy it makes her..

Somes times it gets hard.. But then i just see some pictures of her and i masturbate naturally ...

I mean how cool is it.. Your GF is your fantasy.. No longer some pornstar that you are never gonna fuck anyway ..

He he, make her strip for you and film it. That makes her a porn actress and she cannot really complain anymore... Problem solved.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

U r a genius man

What a goddamn pussy you are Wahn wahn she doesn't want you to watch porn are you fuckin kidding me, she now owns your balls...your gonna feel like and idiot when you break up over the next thing she tries to control...or if she loses respect of you...what does she masterbate too probably not you!

RVAIS has it.

you choked it to porn before you met her, you'll choke it to porn after she's fucked someone else and dumped you.

read some Frank B. Kermit for how to successfully have a relationship.

or next time she asks if you choked it to porn, say "course not honey, i promised you i wouldn't, so i tapped the cute chick in the arse in my Trig class"

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Soon... the way you dress.

Tell her she can't read romance novels (which are verbal porn) anymore. No Twilight either, because it makes you sad and she should want you to be happy. Women just aren't as visual. If you want to open a girl up to porn, give her literotica and porn with meh looking women she won't be threatened by.

Are you a fucking retard? Your girlfriend is your fantasy? Here you go 1-800-273-8255.
Suicide hotline,
for when your relationship ends and you can't get it up with anyone else or even porn anymore.