If I am lucky, I am about 60 days out from divorce and can't wait to get that behind me. I spent a couple of weeks in a different state recently and happened to meet a nice girl that I think dug me but she did tell me that I was "safe" since I was married. I did my best to emphasize that the married part of my life was coming to an end soon and that I would be dangerous when that happened.

Anyways since then I have emailed and texted this woman a few times. She will not write back unless I ask her questions which I don't always do. She has also asked a dumb question at my suggestion to a bunch of foreign businessmen that she was giving a presentation to.

I have the next two weeks off and I'm thinking of asking her to the horse track that is about half way between us. What I want to know is the best way to go about this. Should I phone or text or email? What do you all think? Maybe I should just forget it.

I would phone. Texting to me seems a little childish. Kind of like you're too afraid to actually call. Since you're going through a divorce, I'm guessing you're closer to 30 than 20, so I'd definitely be an adult about it and just call.

I actually really hate how prevalent testing has become, it annoys me to no end when I start talking to girls and then they bombard me with endless texts.

Twenty texts for what could be accomplished in one minute on the phone, it just annoys the crap out of me.

If she normally picks up for your calls, call her. Do not make plans when you call her. Have a general conversation and be lively and funny. Call her a few days later and ask her to go out then.

Just try to make her laugh or be attractive via call, text or email. For example text or open up a conversation with something like "Hey I just saw a foreign businessman. I had no idea what he was saying but his jibberish made me think of you. I think it was worth the few minutes of confusion "

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Yeah texts can get super annoying. But some shy girls refuse to deal with a phone call. I talked to a girl, I said how come you never picked up(it was obvious she still had a crush on me), her response was "I know you called, I didn't know what to say". Now I have been texting her a lot lately. So some girls prefer text some prefer calls. I believe in calling before texting however. After calling and no answer, texting is ok, I haven't figured out the right amount of days to do after, I think 1 day later is good. Rule of thumb to me is those born after 88 prefer text, those born before prefer calls.

Texts are good for mass invites to a bbq. Or whatever b-day or party. I prefer calling as well. It is far more difficult to call, just as anxious as the approach for me. That said it is easier for her to remember her attraction by your voice than a text. If you have a situation where you guys gained a story(gave her a nick name or something) you can send a text poking fun at them with the a innuendo about the story. Using a nick name or something.

You guys are right. Texting does imply that I'm afraid to actually call and interact. Damn it I'm a grown man! So I finally called and got voicemail. She replied with a text. Come to think of it the other times I called she texted back rather than called me back.

Sorry to say this but it looks as if you should move on to the next one. From your response you've made ample attempts and she isn't returning the call. (From her perspective) you are trying to hard and can easily come off as needing this girl more than she needs you.

You are newly single so go find 5 more girls to pursue and juggle (at a club, online, through friends, whatever) and if this one wants to contact you let her contact you.

Always think abundance mentality.