Hey guys. I just got introduced to the pickup community about two weeks ago when my friend loaned me "The Game". I read it and it opened my eyes to an entirely new opportunity. I looked up PUA forums and this looks like the best one out there.

Anyway, about me, I believe that I have (correction: used to have) reasonable natural game. When I was a little I was always the the center of attention, always the funny kid. I used to love to get in front of people and entertain. But that all went away about 6th grade. I started a new school and decided I wanted to be known as "the cool kid" but I had no idea how to achieve this. Basically what I wanted was a girlfriend, and I thought I had to take on this stereotype in order to get one. So that started me down a bad path of drugs (which I no longer do) and insecurity where I eventually lost my sense of humor, I became shy, introverted and scared to death of anything with high heels and a bra.

I thought I was just screwed until I read the gane. It opened my eyes to the hope that I may actually be able to recover and get women. I am serious about getting my inner game set straight. I am actually going to do the newbie mission today.
(I have a friend who is into this stuff, but he is a natural and can't really explain things like an unnatural PUA could. But I do have a wingman.)

I have had some success with women before I lost my personality. I have done basically every sexual thing you can do with a woman without actually having sex. (The one time I came that close I was dealing with some LMR and I didn't know how to overcome it.)

So here are my goals:

I do not wish to become "the number one pickup artist in the world" or get my own TV show or anything like that. All I want is to learn how to attract a reasonable amount of women, get four or five lays, then settle down and engage in a serious relationship. After that I should be self sustaining, I should be comforable in most social situations and should know how to attract pretty much any woman I desire when I go to college or the military or whatever I decide to do after high school.

If anyone has any advice or tips for me I would love to hear them

Four or Five lays? I hope you mean a week. LOL yeah, basically same thing happened to me when I moved, and now I'm starting to get my mojo back.

Good luck on your road to success.

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Casanova, nice story, good you know where you went wrong so far in life, but your young, you learn. Also great you have goals, use the PUA methods to develop a whole new lifestyle, not just get laid.

That comes from inner and natural game, then you'll automatically start attracting women anyway.

For someone who's 17, just by that post you seem fairly intelligent. Good luck, and set yourself weekly targets, write down what happens, never be afraid to ask questions on and off here, if you come across negative and non helpful users, just ignore them, don't take offence, because nobody's perfect.

Good luck!!!

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Been there, done it, oh and still doing it!

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Cassanova I can relate very well to you. I too, was a natural once. I was getting looks from girls and actually had girls approaching me before I got into all of this pick-up stuff. I too was the center of attention but because of my insecurity I too lost my sense of humor. I was probably the funniest kid in my whole social group and definiteley the most outgoing. As of right now, im getting my mojo back. It takes time though. My inner games still fucked but im working on that harder than ever this summer. Actually, bought 5 books on the topic and am actually listening to the Power Of Now. Very good book/audiobook on inner game and how to become at peace and fullfilled in your life without external validation.

But as of right now, im not doing any approaches. Im strictly inner game right now. Once I get that handled everything else should take care of itself. Get your inner shit together and everything else will come into place. Id highly reccomend the power of now to start on your inner game issues. Dont make the same mistake I made and im sure alot of guys made by going straight to the techniques and pick up lines. If you dont have your inner game together none of that will work.

Good luck,

The Stiffmeister

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Thanks guys I will definitely do all of that. I am going to set a weekly goal and post the outcome on here. Also I will go to the library soon and see if I can find a copy of The Power of Now.

I do agree with The Stiffmeister about not going straight into pickup lines and such, but I also think that engaging in challenging social situations is an important part of learning to manage my social anxiety.

Actually, I am supposed to meet a couple of girls at the pool tomorrow (one of them I am interested in for sexual purposes, and both of them I have known for some time) and even if I don't get the lay, at least I will have the experience and I will have something to work on. (That will be a reasonable goal for this week.) I will post how that went tomorrow.

Until then, peace guys and thanks again.


Casanova

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You can get a free copy of the audio version or the book there. Id prefer the audio version. Dont get practicing the power of now but actually get the actual power of now. Practicing the power of now in my opinion is not nearly close in value as the actual power of now. But it is more time consuming. The choice is up to you.

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The Power of Now is a godsend. Really, really helped me. I still listen to it fairly often. I highly recommend it.

@ Tuck3908; I know right? Shits crazy. If you're looking to get rock solid inner game then its a must that you get this book. Currently, im working on quieting my mind. Ive been doing this for a week and I could tell that results are definiteley showing. Yesterday, at night in about 2 in the morning I couldnt fall asleep. Its like I was happy for no reason. Joy just came out of nowhere from deep within. With practice this should intensify over time.

Did you just read the book or actully apply the principles that he addresses in your daily life? Either way the book is still life changing.

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I had something similar happen last night. It was brief, but it was like euphoria. Not sure what caused it exactly but I knew that that was how I felt on my A game.

I have this book on audio, going to try and listen to it.

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Exactly man. Right now, the next day, its even more intense. Like little shit that bothered me a week before doesnt seem to bother me at all right now. Im alot more in the moment and I just feel so much damn better than I did a week before. Its like, im in the fucking zone. It feels as if I went out in field right now at this moment id be on fucking fire. Anyways, I still am not nearly satisfied with my results as of now but im definiteley making progress.

I dedicate myself for the whole summer to meditate for at least 30 minutes on my thought processes as the silent watcher. A week in the results have been amazing. 2 months from now they should be even better. Seriously, this self-improvement book has helped me the most out of all the books I read. In my opinion its one of the best on the topic. Seriously, for all the guys who havent checked it out do it. It will change your fucking life.

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I'm halfway through chapter 2, this is great stuff. I'm glad I got the audio, I can just sit back and listen to the narrator and its like a counseling session.

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The best PUA advice is also the best fighting advice.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ijCSu87 ... rn-1r-4-HM

congrats on finding the game early enough i was a major nerd at you age amnd didnt even get laid til i was 19 but im making up for it now! i will suggest 1 thing as your early enough in the game to appreciate this dont bog yourself down with attemptng to learn everything about pickup go out and do it.. i know some who learn everything to learn yet never apply in the real world! pick 1 methodology as soon as you learn something attempt to apply it then move on to the next then apply that until you have a structure

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Dont only listen but apply the principles he addresses in the book. Listening is one thing applying what you learn is another. Right now, my ego is putting up so much resistance its crazy. Like, I dont even wanna do the shit but I know im gonna be so much better off if I do. Its like dont fucking do this and you dont want to do this and shit like that. Dont think im crazy that my minds telling me these things but I have gotten to the point were I can observe pretty much any thought that pops into my mind.

Im making my unconscious thought proccesses conscious and am working on them. The hardest part though is not the observing but the resistance your ego puts up. The first week bareley any resistance. Now, since im changing and am feeling alot better about myself a shitload of resistance. In the end its gonna be worth it though. Amazing, amazing, amazing book. Right now im on chapter 3 section 1. Havent started yet but should start tonight.

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@Stiffmeister: Are you talking about the audio version of "Power of Now" where Tolle himself is reading it and has the xylophone chimes going off at the beginning of every chapter? I tried listening to that recently and had to stop at the second chapter it was so boring. The guy has no energy in his voice. If you're from here in the States, you'll remember a children's show called "Mister Rogers' Neighborhood"....it's like listening to Mr. Rogers after he's taken a Xanax.

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