Girlfriend:

Girl is a HB 9, shes very beautiful, very playful, and awesome to hang out with. Shes very insecure about relationships due to the fact that she was raised in a single mother home, with her mom constantly being cheated on. She embodys the type of girl i love dating, and has great qualities. To cut to the chase, shes wild and loves to explore just like I do. I know shes not perfect, ( insecurities causing her to be unfaithful ) ( lack of emotion and compassion outside of the bed room. )

Situation:

So we dated for about a year and a half. The whole relationship started bumpy and both of us thought it was not going to last. I waited three months and then asked her out. I only did because she was doing things to make me jelous in order for me to ask her out. After I asked her out i began making rookie mistakes, txting all the time, telling her how great she is, buying her flowers, just going out of my way to make sure she was happy. During this period i was very weak myself, she had complete control in the relationship. She would make a mistake and pay for it for 3 days and then we would never mention it again. If i did the same thing she would not let it go for months. Shes a very cold person too so being with her made me yearn for her love because i got a lack of it. 6 months ago we broke up because she heard lies from her friends about me ( it was an excuse, she was bored and wanted something new ) We both went on with our lives i tried contacting her the first few months we even slept together once but i was very needy and sensitive which pushed her away further. This is when i decided to look into the PUA community. I read every single book i could get my hands on. I was so down and depressed that i needed to understand why this had happened to me. Since then ive managed to sleep with 4 of her friends, turn them all against her, without her knowing, im now seeing her again and sleeping with her on a regular basis. We never talk about relationships we just have sex and thats that.

Problem:

I know you cant change a girl, I am not asking to change her. I want her to respect me and so far ive began making the right changes. I want her to see the new me, and to want me like her friends want me. I want to evoke some sort of positive emotion from her, just hearing the words: I really enjoy spending time with you would mean a lot to me coming from a cold person like her.

My Efforts::

So as I said, Ive done my research, realized what i did wrong, spent months fixing myself, and now im here. Im sleeping with her again, using tactics ive learned from the community. Everything is going great so far but Ive sort of found myself in a stale mate. Neither her or I are buging even an inch. All of the knowledge and confidence ive accumulated has got me here. Now Im asking for a little help to get me over the edge and have her whole heartedly want me.

Dude, this situation is fucked. You make it sound like she constantly cheats on you and you forgive her. This is a joke. You know how to show her you're a new man? Move on. You're a new man and you don't deserve to be treated like shit anymore. You're always going to be that spineless wimp you used to be to her. If you've been reading around here, then you know the only way to separate yourself from the guy that's now hardwired in her brain (the old you) is to take a few months apart and act like you're a different guy altogether when/if you try to get back together. This is loser game because at the end of the day, the only reason you changed yourself is to try to please this girl. If that's the case, she completely owns you already. If you're willing to give up parts of yourself to please someone, then you're weak and there won't even be pieces to pick up when she finally leaves your ass for good.

If you're serious about not wanting to change her, than you already know it's foolish to try to curb her behavior or make her respect you, that's just another way of saying you want to change her. Either you're willing to take her as she is, or you'll man up and find someone worth your time. There's a reason she's single, it's because she's poison. Maybe you can stick it out and if you're lucky, you can be the guy she brags about that killed himself over her.

Thank you very much for that reply, you have no idea what that meant to me. To have someone speak the truth while taking my dignity into consideration feels wonderful. I think you are completely right. I am way above this now, I have to grow a pair and move on so that she understands what she lost. Btw she never cheated on me, when we broke up she went nuts and slept around. That does not bug me slightly, I am a new man whom I love for the first time in my life, and the last piece to this puzzle is having her completely gone because I don't need her she was my test in life and I passed it. I didn't let this situation break me and I chose to rise above it which I'm proud of. Anyways I'm returning her stuff she left at my place and after that I'm ready to begin the first day of the rest of my life, WITH my pride

PS> A lot of this had to do with my pride, the reason why i did all of this was not because of her, but for myself. I felt i had failed at something for the first time in my life and was obsessed with redeeming myself.

It's a good experience, a test as you say. I'm glad to have helped.