This is hard to admit, but it is needed. I got into a relationship with a girl based on the fact that I got the opportunity to fuck (she took my virginity), not because I was IN LOVE, like she was. We have been together for a year now, and during this period I have honestly developed feelings for her. Her feelings for me are fading away.
We talked a few days (over phone) ago and both of us admitted that "the spark" (both when it comes to love and sex) isn't there anymore. It's not like we fuck at the first and best opportunity anymore, sometimes we fuck only 2 times a week and it's ok for both of us. (It's never been less than 2 times a week...). Furthermore she said that she's not THAT happy when she sees me, but I said "it's the same for me and that it's natural because we wont be in love forever". This is what happened that day (briefly)
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Her: Why are you so quiet?
Me: Am I?
Her: Yes, you are
Me: I dunno know what it is.
Her: I have a bad feeling...
Me: Yes, I have too.
Her: What do you feel is wrong? Is it us?
Me: Yes, I think it is. I feel like both of us are losing our feelings towards each other
Her: Yes, I agree. I finished my period today but didn't want to fuck, lol. I usually would have taken you any second.
Me: Yes, same for me. When you told me to "come over" I made up some stupid excuse lol. If we lose our feelings towards each other it might as well be best for us to break up.
Her: I don't want to lose you. You are the best person I know about, I can't imagine a life without you.
Me: You would rather have me as your friend than boyfriend in other words? It's not going to work easily out and you know that.
Her: *Crying*. I don't know why Im losing my feelings.
Me: Yes, but I have to go. Im going to hung up with [some friends]. I'll pick you up later today when you're done watching drama-programs with your girlfriends!
Her: Haha, stupid. Goodbye then, we're not over, we have been together for 1 year.
Then I left and had a chat with some you guys in here at the chat. They told me to take back what I said about being friends (instead say that we can be friends even if we break-up), break-up with her and not sleep over. I did the opposite
I picked her up and drove home, and after some chit-chat and such we sat down to talk. This is what happend...
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Her: It's weird. When I see you now, and not over the phone, it's totally different. I have feelings for you still. What say you?
Me: Firstly I want to take back what I said about not being friends if we break up. I can assure you that I wont ignore you or do other stuff if we break up. But why would the change of your feelings happen so fast? I think it's best if we break up and go seperate ways to find a partner we have feelings for, if we are losing our feelings.
Her: But you said you wanted to try one more time if we had a fight. *Starting to escalate sexually on me, which means Im fucked*
Me: Yes, I haven't lost all my feelings for you, I have to admit that some of the are gone, and it's not like I want to fuck you all the time, but they are still there.
Her: Maybe it's a down-period for both of us?
Then we started to kiss and had sex three times during the night. (FUCK IT). Next morning we had lunch outside and had sex once more. No details, but it was really good
Then we agreed on trying more and concluded that this was a downperiod. What are your comments?
- How can I increase the sexual spark? (any good links or material)
- Are we tired of each other? Both are 19, not the best age for a relationship or to settle down.
The only reason that I don't break up with her is the fact that I can't accept the thought of her being fucked by another boy. Is this me being AFC? I haven't turned AFC, maybe I am still, lol?
Sorry Hobbit
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