Dude, we were only dating like 6 weeks before she started having abandonment issues. I think smothering her is exactly the wrong thing to do. And I have a job, friends, and a dog here. No way I'm giving up my life, even if part of me does love her. She needs her space and I need to not waste my time and emotions chasing her around when all she wants is to get away. I already laid out to her how I feel, I'm good.

I said "if she means something to you, go for it". I didn't say go for it, even if she means nothing to you.

From the sound of it, I think she rather prefer you not chasing her.

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She definitely means something to me. But girls with these kind of issues will chew their own leg off to get out of something serious. Either she'll mature or I'll find someone worth my commitment. Pretty easy. Thanks for your interest anyway.

The feelings you have for her is deeper than the feelings she has for you. In the back of her mind, she is really thinking this: "If I am important enough to you, you would chase me to the end."

Lots of woman tend to stereotype guys as being just another person who's immature and just wants the good-that guys are never worth it.

But I think that if deep down, you are somehow able to express how important she is to you, you might touch a part of her heart, and she might reconsider coming back. After all, we are all human, and therefore sensitive.

On the contrary, if you leave her, ignore her, let her be, then she might view this as "I'm not important to him," and unless you are super rich or super hot (someone she can benefit from being around with), she will not come back to you. There are so many other guys out there, so why bother with someone who doesn't even truly care about me?

You know the PUA stuff they teach you? about how to use reverse psychology, DHV, and stuff to get girls back? It doesn't apply on all girls, and most importantly it doesn't apply in all situation. PUA stereotypes and prejudice woman. There is very little validity in stereotypes.

In your case, I think you should follow your heart.

I think the girl is avoiding you, and avoiding you does not necessarily mean they want out. It could also mean that they are scare of falling too deeply with you if they see you again.

Like you said, "We have really good times together," do you think those memories weren't real or something?

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"