she told you abt her dancing classes with a tongue smiley, you completely ignored tht n asked her out...lol comeon bro...
neways, the last thing you did was good, but erasing her off facebook was a bit harsh....that more than anything will affect her n not wanna talk to you (ppl r crazy abt facebook) this deal as i see it is off, find someone else.
Im still rooting for you tho, if you get in contact with this chick again, do post. Good luck!

This is a classical example of losing a girl's interest due to the guy's insecurities and neediness. You should relax await what happens instead of taking every single opportunity to ask her to go out with you. You had sex for the first time a couple of weeks ago, you mentioned. Was that also the last time or did things go well after the first sexual encounter? If you did not have sex anymore after the first time, then it's over!

If I were you I would do this:

Maintain contact on chat, however, keep chat sessions short. When you chat and she is not responsive then let her know you have work to finish and log off. When she is responsive, keep the chat session flirty and tease her. Don't ask to meet the following 1-2 weeks, no matter how well chat goes. Always leave first when online, but remain always polite to her.

You proceeding like you did so far and stressing about the situation will drive her only farther away from you. At some point, she will feel sorry for you and lose all interest. Also, don't forget to flirt or even meet with other women, it keeps your game on level.

Post here when there is more news!

Good luck

It seems that the netiquette for deleting someone off Facebook is that it's an extremely harsh thing to do - everyone has people on Facebook they don't even talk to, so to purposely delete someone only means one of two things - you fucking hate them because they are a freak and you want no contact with them ever again - or you are doing it to spite them.

If there's no reason for you to fucking hate them and delete them without warning, then it's very obvious you've deleted them to spite them. And that comes off as really weak of you, and upsetting for the person you deleted.

So I think deleting a girl who's simply not responding to you sends the wrong message. It certainly ensures you won't hear from them again, and shows them you're cranky and trying to make them feel bad.



Other than that, sounds like you were on the right track and of the right mindset. Do you think you deleted her to spite her? Maybe you just didn't realise how severe it is. But if you deleted it to spite her, you have some inner game issues to think about. You have to be honest with yourself about that.

Thanks for all the comments.

I deleted her probably because I got really mad with that response, and since the response was on facebook, it was like hanging the phone, a reaction. Probably a mistake but I am seriously really tired with the game of this girl, I pretty much lost my patience.

I've been with girls after deleting them from facebook/messenger anyways. Sometimes it is not a bad thing (they knew I had deleted them).

@Conker: In your reasoning about deleting someone from facebook you have to include that people hurt or disappointed might also erase you from facebook. In those situations I have erased girls from it with good results.

In this case I would probably like to send the message that I'm disappointed or maybe a little bit hurt with how she made me think many times she wanted to see me and she always canceled last minute, or how she clearly ignores me during the week and then in the weekends calls me at weird times. I want to send the message that she is not going to play with me, and that I don't need to keep her on the side because I don't care. She still has my phone number so if she is a bit less proud she could at least ask me why am i mad... Or something... But if she don't care, then I'm not gonna be her puppy, and I don't want to see her in facebook because then I feel like chatting to her or whatever.

That's my reasoning pretty much.

buyers remorse. The thing about picking up girls with these techniques is that its great to get them to sleep with you and find numbers. But long term relationships, you cant have a set of responses to everything. It seems like what you need to do it something slightly drastic because, face it, you lost her... or shes seeing someone else which is most likely the case. What i would suggest is tell her YOU dont think its working out, and that theres this other girl i want to get to know better. She will dislike this, but it will leave an opening for a month in the future if shes still single. Dont talk to her at all after that for a few weeks, and then call her and say, hey im having a party, its been a while but your invited. and start from square one. you fucked up it sounds like so this may be the case. This is good for ex girlfriends etc. i dont know how well it will work for your situation. Although with ex gfs id say wait a few months before talking again, and then do the invite. to sum it up, find a way to START OVER.

You sound needy, move on this ones done. Next time don't talk all weekend long over text. And don't ask what's wrong.

This has happened to me in the past, i slept with a brunette 9 one weekend, saw her again the next weekend for a repeat session and after that she completely lost interest. Simply coz i started liking her a bit much and forgot to make myself hard to get.
The only thing for you to do now is to keep in distant contact for 6 months or a year and start afresh. Seriously tho, its easier just to move on and forget about her.
Just keep in mind that you want to keep seeing a girl like that, you need to keep gaming her after you've slept with her.

Cat string theory

I think you will naturally push-pull if you just respond to her responses with an appropriate level - always be trying to make things fun, then when she doesn't reciprocate - eg you go to hold hands, but her grip is flimsy and feels like it might slip out when you loosen yours - then you let go, divert your attention to something else. Not too much, just the right amount. A more extreme example - you mention your place, she responds with another question and there's not a lot of enthusiasm in her voice - you then change your mind and say maybe it's getting late actually, or actually I'm not sure if you should come over. Let her ask why!

First of all bro, this girls wack.. and your wack for having one-itis with her..
You slept with her the first day you met her great. But then she spoke to you on SPAM right after as if you were dating or something. The easier they come, the easier they'll go and that just proves it. You should bang her, and you wait until she calls you.

You have one-itis and she doesn't want a guy that gets attached easily. Just as you shouldn't want a girl that gets attached easily because that shows a weakness of character.

This whole facebook garbage shows taht even though you never officially dated, you get emotional around her. That'll only scare her away from you even more. Who knows what you'd do if you were going out?! If I was you, I'd concentrate on other girls. And next time you see her, talk down to her. don't bring anything up about hanging out.. jsut find some reasons to make fun of her.. bust her balls.. be an asshole..just don't be disrespectful..

It sounds like you have already figured out the situation.

On the other hand, it kind of seems like she still wants your attention. I don't think ignoring her completely is the answer. But maybe for this girl it was the right thing to do.

For future reference, always be interesting. Don't always be available to talk to. But do talk to the girl. SPAM for about 20 minutes or so and then say something like, "I have to go (insert badass activity here)." and then leave. I do this all the time, and every time girls see me log in to facebook or SPAM, I immediately get messages because they know I'm about to go out with friends.

Tell her stories to keep her interested. From what I read, it sounds like she got bored and all you did was ask questions. It became your standard relationship.

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Or mayb she just wanted a fuck buddy and nothing more. she got distant coz she got the signals tht u were getting serious or starting to like her or something..SO just play it kool and flirt with her ...