Usually she is good at responding and shows equal interest...

So I saw her a yesterday at a coffee shop that I tend frequently and I was hanging out with a couple of girls that I had just met, but I didn't really get to chat with the girl I text. Which is the reason why I sent her a text today.

So I said in the text, "You like getting high, raspberry, crunchy peanut butter, and sizi's (the coffeee shop). I think I am falling in love with you. :p" (I watched Gamblers videos and he tallked about doing stuff like that to make them feel the emotions even though it isn't serious)


And i knew it was a little risky, but it obviously wasn't serious and now i feel totally insecure about it. I sent it a few hours ago and no response yet. Should I be concerned or am I just over reacting?

Dude, I never thought throwing out the word love was a big deal. Then I casually tossed it out to a girl who had daddy abandonment issues and she ran for the door. You should never use it unless the girl says it first, even just playing. This is from a real dude, not someone trying to sell you shit.

dude never say I love you in text unless your going out with this chick and you mean it. you used what gambler said in the wrong way he means tongue-in cheek comedy which u can only use in person that way they know your not serious about it because over text its almost impossible to detect sarcasm

Even in person, casually, sarcastically, don't fucking do it. It's not worth the risk. It's called the L-bomb for a reason. It'll blow your shit up.

i know all the other guys have already said this but DO NOT USE the word love, i mean i applaud you for improvising & experimenting but the word love is a strong word that is asociated with strong emotions, it is number one way to provoke a strong emotional reaction, for better or worse. I once accumulated a stalker from accidently using the word love via text

I know you watched all the stealth seduction and tongue in cheek stuff by gambler but the problem is that you cant really produce the same effect through text, i mean a text all depend on how she interperets it which means it can be a real problem in communicating emotion

p.s. get any text back yet? love to hear what if anything happened next

-Stryde-

i get where you wanted to go, but yeah the word "love" might scare girls off, espicially in the context "i love you".

i would have done it this way: "omg you're rich, you can cook ... im SOOO gonna marry you! :p"

that would have been better.

she might be ignoring your text message, but remember: she might also be bussy.

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Well, even though I have yet to receive a text back, you guys have a way of making me feel a hell of a lot better!

So let me get this straight, DON'T DROP THE L-BOMB IN TEXT or any other situation. Did I get that right, haha?

Thanks for the feedback, I can officially check that lesson off the list. : ) However, now I need all of your brilliant minds to tell me how to fix it or have I reached the point of no return? I will see her around on occasion and at the very least, I don't want things to be weird...


What should I text back and when?

I think it'd be worth giving her a call and just speak casually. If not a call jsut speak to her again when you see her as you say she works at a place you frequent? I don't think the l-bomb is a total no-no, but just when your not face to face it's just not the same and you have to be careful with those sorts of things. Just pray she's run out of credit or something, and if it's gone to shit, oh well! on to the next
good luck!

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only drop the L-BOMB when you have built a good connection/relationship. When shes comfortable.

but yea no L-bomb in your case heh

dude, it's not that bad what you said, girls like that kinda stuff. may have been taken the wrong way, give her a day or so, text back saying

ignore my text then! your nasty! [optional] i'l go and give someone else my love ! :p [optional]

hopefully will ignite a response.

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UPDATE

Last night I decided to go with my friend to the grocery store, but before we went we got high. I figured it would be much more fun if I was ripped. So we smoked out and headed off to the store.

I rolled into the store with a huge smile on my face and started looking for cookie ingredients. Fresh hot cookies are way too good in that state of mind. : ) So anyways, I was cruising through the store and I see the girl that I have been talking about. I immediately felt a little bit awkward, but she didn't see me. So I kept moving, but I knew I was going to see her.

I moved to the checking line, we connected eyes and two huge smiles appeared as we did, mine and hers; she and her friend started walking towards me. I played it like nothing was wrong and we both seemed to enjoy the interaction. It was short and sweet, but it was exactly what I needed to reset things.

I left the store feeling much better about everything, but I had to send her a text. It wasn't a genius one either, but it was how I was feeling. So I wrote, "That was 2 funny and you know exactly why!" I was refereeing to how the situation was a little awkward.

So she wrote back, "Living in a stoner's paradise." Which was not the answer I was expecting, but I will take it being that we were both apparently ripped. Now I need to work on getting back in with her.

P.S. The cookies were fucking delicious!