If you fake it, you're putting on an act for this girl. YOU know you're faking; it's kind of like going out of your way to impress a girl. Plus, lets face it, since you're faking for her, you'll be thinking of her and what she's doing the whole time. Bad stuff. You'd be better off actually enjoying your life without her than sitting at a cafe trying to duck her in a desperate bid to get her attention. You're making this girl your whole world, what do you think is going to happen to you when she doesn't want to participate anymore?

I understand you have a lot of free time (god, I understand, why do you think I'm on here so much?), but you have to find something to distract you from fixating on women, otherwise you're always going to be the girl and clingy and needy. Trust me on this.

In a way most PUAs are faking it. All the pickup artist I have studied recommend that people wait two days to text or call, respond to a text or a phone call in the same amount of time as it took them, and little stuff like that. It is how to show a woman that you are not needy. Which I firmly believe is true under my experience. A lot of them also recommend that a PUA is always busy on a Friday and Saturday night, regardless of whether or not one is staying home playing video games or not. That rule only applies for women that someone has yet to sleep with, but it seems a lot of being a pua is putting on an act.


I think I might have gave you the wrong impression as well. This girl is not my whole world, she is a girl that I want to be more intimate with and I think about, but I am off gaming other girls as well. All I want to do is switch the rolls we are playing so that she is the one left wanting more.

I think what I can take from this is that I should start having more to do everyday, so that she has to fit into my schedule (any woman) and that will motivate me to be more busy and in effect be less available and less consumed with the girls I am dating.

Yeah, maybe a lot of being a PUA is pretending that you're something you're not (like a badly dressed magician), but you don't ever have to act contrary to yourself. I think it's possible to be a PUA and not feel like a fraud, that you're just using PUA to enable parts of yourself. Yeah, you can PRETEND to be busy, but it's win/win if you are actually busy and less available.

The PUA way is a kind of lifestyle, people take it to far, it's a good way for AFC's to develop some backbone. I firmly believe if read properly and studied and tested what you learn in field, you will see, you develop as a person, less of a pushover etc in every day life, not just with women.

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No doubt, becoming a pua effects a lot more than one's skills with the ladies. It is about becoming one's best self and I have come a long way since first reading David DeAngelo. So I have nothing but positive feedback for people who ask me about it and I agree with you 100 percent.

You have come in at the butt end of a discussion and i don't think either of us would disagree with you, other wise we wouldn't be on this forum.

I have read the post, it interested me.

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the advice i have given isn't really for the use of escalation, i'm sure there are other tips out there that work. I was thinking more the situation you have. The girls are calling the shots which can be a good thing! but at the same time an element of control in your house is the aim of the game... sex ?

I think i read this in "the rules of the game" -neil strauss. He basically makes you construct a weekly timetable completely filled with cool events that you could do. so if you see like an ad for an art museum or any other day events, fill up the calender/timetable. just fill with cool things. This way you always know whats going on so you could go to those events just to meet people or if it's a hobby. And you could always get a girl to come along example "hey, there is a great ____ on saturday, do you want to tag along?"

basically to become better at "the game" become a better person. I don't mean that your not a great person... but i'm sure there have been times in your life when you have questioned yourself? I know i have. I sometimes don't know what stuff i like to do which can really put doubt in your own personality. Just find the things you love. That really interest you. Fill up your calendar and your away. You'll meet your type of girls there too, if it's something you enjoy... like art or something. Also gives you things to talk about.

Sorry about this post, not entirely relevant. I'm just in one of those moods, end of term... end of college forever!!! wooo.

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I've said this to my friends who i have helped out in the world of PUA. It's not about picking up girls. Think about it. you go up to a girl and start talking and at one point you use some canned material... does that mean your pretending to be something your not [unless... you actually do... hey i'm the queen... or as in actually lie... saying your busy isn't lying... girls use it in the sense that they are doing something else...if your playing video games... your fucking busy getting your k/d up duuh... ill end this little paraphrase now.]

so what i mean is that little canned material doesn't mean your following a script to pick-up girls... it means shit i have nothing to say because i'm not comfortable in this situation... a random hot girl omgomg

PICKUP is just pure confidence... guys that pull have confidence. naturals have confidence... amogs have wayyyy too much but they still pull at the end of the day.

being a pua just means you have confidence... because you know, if things fail and you run out of things to say... you have that can of words in your back pocket. you go pop-eye.

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damn that was another shit post.

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