So after all the reading, thinking, and even some writing, I realize after hitting the field, real life and specifically the emotions that come up are hard to over come. Much respect to those who have already faced their approach fears and to those of us who will do it in the future.

I chickened out at the mall and did not approach anyone. In hindsight (especially after reading the Gunwitch Method 1) I see I had some opportunities to approach some B-HB in the bookstore. It also has me re-thinking my entire game.

When I was writing my script it seemed so easy. I had the ideal scenario running in my head. Go to the mall food court, find a one or two set and approach. I picked a low key mall. What threw me off was instead of a bunch of sets of 20 something’s coming from work. What I mostly saw was families, couples, and the few lone wolves looked like they were waiting for someone. I did see some 2-4 sets walking the mall but like I said I was scared.

I grabbed a smoothie and then proceeded to walk the mall. Sometimes it was funny because I found myself more worried about what you guys would think about me chickening out than about these women. In fact I am more worried about what the people on the periphery will think than the actual targets. My inner voices are not my friends. Time for some inner work - I need to get clear on my intention in sarging and do something about my need for other peoples high opinion.

On the way home I walked passed some Videoke bars and couldn’t even smile at the working girls.

It was still early so I went to get a haircut. Luckily the cute women working there started talking about dating. That was easy enough for me to ask, “So do you know what kind of man you are looking for?” It was amazing because the woman who had been working the front desk just opened up like she had been waiting to talk to me. I was more interested in the one who was cutting my hair but my game was thrown of by my answering a call from another woman I am dating. I felt embarrassed to keep playing the game so I turned myself into a LJBF. Note to self: next time you sarge put the phone on silent and don’t answer. So, no success at the hair salon after the call I wasn’t playing anymore.

I road a jeepney (the ubiquitous local transport) home from the salon. I must have a PUA guardian angle looking out for me because as I stepped into the Jeepney I saw a HB8 sitting on the left and she smiled. I smiled back but like an AFC I looked down and did not make more than glancing eye contact. I spent the ride thinking about how to approach but did not. We looked at each other and smiled again – I noticed she had a friend so it was a two set.

As I was getting up to get off the jeepney, when I noticed the two smiled at each other. (Hmm, just saw a reason to learn Mysteries best friend set) As I was holding on and stepping down to get off I felt her hand touch mine. She laughed and apologized (pretending it was an accident?) while smiling at me (like she liked it). She and her friend had also gotten off the jeepney.

We all crossed the street – the entire time I am thinking “What the hell am I going to SAY…”. So I tried out the line I made up, “Can I get your opinion on something? Where is the best place to meet people to practice Tagalog? The mall or a park? Kasi ipinaganak ako sa Canada. Kunti lang intindi Tagalog…”(because I was born in Canada, I only know a little Tagalog”)

Friend of HB: I think outside a church is best.
Tulisan: Ok, yeah there are friendly people at churches. Where did you two just come from?
HB: We just came from bible study at …
Tulisan: That can be a great experience. Was it Christian or Catholic…
HB: gives me a strange look and then says “Catholic”
Tulisan: Where are you from…(I transitioned into small talk about where we are from. Most times being from abroad creates DHV.)

We talked for about 2 minutes as we walked two blocks together. I wished them good night when they were close to their place. (I realized I automatically assumed they lived with relatives or that they were borders who could not have male guest. Next time I’ll find out and create a way to have them invite me in).

So now I know that I can approach and I can transition.
I’ve gotten IOI’s all my life but I freeze up. I am afraid of stalling and falling on my face. I don’t know what to do with the smiles. Part of that is because after the opener and transition I am unsure of my game. Insights from others would be appreciated.

It will be interesting to see how I create DHV and comfort here in the Philippine C scene. Some women here can be very lam’bing or touchy feely affectionate. I can’t wait to play with that.

So last night was not what I was expecting but I am proud of myself for getting out there. I also know that I made 4 women smile that wouldn’t have smiled if they hadn’t met me. Between that and future success I am looking forward to my next time in the field. Feed back and wing men would be appreciated.

Good job buddy! The first set is always the hardest and one of the most memorable ones

Haha wow what a religious town !

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V3nu

Hey man, thanks for the report. How old are you by the way? You sound like maybe you are kind of young. One, I am extremely jelous that you have the chance to sarge in the Phillipines. I've never been there myself, but from what I've heard it is really easy to pick up girls there. And two, I am so frusterated that you don't have the skills to number close girl after girl. I so wish I was there to go sarge with you. I'm here in Japan now, about 2 hours by plane from PI. PM me if you have specific questions. Thanks for the report. I look forward to more.

Manila has some interesting places that have a mixed crowed. What does that mean i my book - well places that have a good mix of people having fun, expats & upscale locals, some single women just having a good time, the groups of people having fun, and professionals (I have no idea what PUA call these ladies but I figure a PUA would not touch one with a 10 foot pole - but damn if there aren't a bunch of 8-10 out there). Maybe this falls closer to strippers but then strip clubs like what they have in Las Vegas, San Francisco, or Los Angeles don't exist here.

It makes for an interesting place to hang out and to learn to Sarge.
Last night I spent from Midnight to 5am just ogling but too scared to approach at this particular bar like this in Manila. Interesting thing is the working women smile - I smile back and sometimes they approach. Weird thing is they keep trying to set me up with young women in their 18 to early 20's but I found myself interested in the women I was talking to. When I would say we should hang out - She kept saying "no way" but she would smile and then touch my arm. I was confused so I said, "I have to go up to the next room and meet back with a friend but I may be back" then I walked away but didn't see her again when I came back with my idea for some lines and to practice some kino escalation.

Finally at 5:00 am I went outside to grab some air and to find something to eat. When I saw this cute 18 -20 year old (lol) squatting on the ground holding the sides of her head looking dead tired. I figured I wouldn't get a better opportunity to meet such a hot looking babe looking so human. She looked so tired who cares if she gives me dirty look to shoot me down.

So I asked her "So you look pretty tired to" She looked back and smiled.
"I'm Tulisan - Pilipino ako pero kounti lang intindi Tagalog" Kasi pinaganak sa Canada". I'm Filipino but I only understand a little Tagalog because I was born in Canada.
HB - Standing up now and looking me up and down. She smiles and looks likes she's trying to figure me out.
Me: "So slow night - didn't meet any interesting people?"
HB "I'm just here hanging out with my friends here because they like to hang out here" She nods to her friends that are at a nerby food stall eating and who are now laughing and pointing at us. They look away when I glance at them.
We engaged in small talk about meeting people and hanging out at this club. She seems warm and friendly and I've gotten the IOI of smiles, eye contact, a slap on the arm, but in retrospect no sexual passion was created.

Some women here are very "lambing" this means they are physically expressive/affectionate. I would love to learn how people read this and play with this to escalate sexual energy. I still haven't gotten my game to the point of trying take aways - so I am all push - no pull, maybe some wait. I figure I also tentative since I wait the whole night before I make a move.

If I can get myself to try approaches sooner I could get in more practice and try some negs/take aways.

Anyway I was feeling pretty tired and since I had nothing to loose. I say,"Well you seem pretty nice. I am going to a local hotel to catch some shut eye, you are welcome to come and sleep" In retrospect maybe I should have oozed I wanted what I really wanted".
HB "Are you sure, nothing is happening tonight ok?" I was already flagging down a taxi, "I'm going to sleep and you can to". She she hooped into the cab with me and fell asleep on my shoulder"

I went to one of the local cheep but clean hotels with hourly rates. Manila like Japan has places that are actually upscale to scandalous with hourly rates. Even though I was horny - I kept my word and slept next to her but did put my arm around her. She moved into a nice spoon and then we both crashed. The next morning I started to kiss her neck and she turned to kiss me. We got to the point of grinding but then she wanted to back off.

She starts talking about her recent break up.... We end up leaving and I know this is total AFC but I took us out to breakfast.

Nice girl but don't know if I will follow up. I still don't even know what I did right and were I went wrong. She's also dealing with her break up.

I may be over thinking this but I want to really work on my approach skills. Luckily I have enough other skills that I can create situations where I do feel comfortable or they approach me. LOL, I guess working girls looking for customers don't count though.

Thanks for the PM. You are right - I know there are some skills that are just outside my reach right now. It's pretty cool though to be on the path to get them

Hey Tulisan,

You should really attack the girls working at the malls. A lot of them are bored and just standing around.

Approach them with your "beginners tagalog" so they can get a kick out of it.

And then chat with them for a bit and get their numbers and bust TEXT game.

Do this with a bunch of girls to keep you head occupied from thinking about doing the right "pick-up technique" too much.

Try it.