hello you guys.

had a six week relationship with a girl who simply lives to far away. I broke up with her, but she needed to keep riding the shift stick if ya know what I mean.

So it turns out we meet up every two or three weeks or so, and we fuck each others brains out. I'm totally OK with this and of course there is still the emotional connection, but heres the problem.

Her friends disagree on our "free sex relationship". One of her friends asked her critically if she was happy with this. Hoping to hear something about her feeling abused, she got dissapointed cause my FB told her strongly "no". SHe was happy with having me as a sexual partner. case closed.

Now another friend of her. A downright 10, used to getting what she want off course. Pushed her into forcing me to come to a birthday party upcoming sunday afternoon. Usually I hang with my friends then, but thats not a solid agreement so I agreed I would come.

So what should I do, concerning that:

1. My FB has clearly been pushed into inviting me over to the party?
2. Some of her friends will try to cockblock me when I connect socially to the group?

I can fight off the cockblockers, but only for a while, and definitely not when heavily outnumbered. But I was hoping on some advice of you experienced MLTR guys...

thanx greetz Bucc

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson

W.e if she is happy with it than tell her who cares what other think? she a big girl and if she want to have sex than she can...will she regret it? perhaps but that not her friends choice to make and if she wants to break things off with you than so be it...go find another women.

Now let me ask you somthing? if she did break things off how would it make you feel? Because perhaps it would be worth it to have a relationship with her? commitment is hard I know but you also dont wat to regret not making her your gf...just think about it.

Hi Dark one,

I'm afraid your not answering the questions. And asking them yourself to me doens't make this any clearer.

I'm only want advice on how to handle the cockblockers. The relationship will be just fine. And just the way I like, and designed it. So don't worry about that.

I just need to know what to expect from the obstacles and how tot treat them.
thanx Greetz

Bucc.

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson

Dont handle them is my point...you take her aside and let her know how things are and how you want them to be and that it.

In your fuck budies eyes you are high value and that is why she has stuck by your side for so long. girls will get drunk and say things...if one of her friends says anything to you just be nice and tell her you understand she cares about her friend but its none of her business...and then turn to your fuck budy and say "do your friends always tell you what to do?" end of story...if it contines than leave and tell your fuck budy you dont need to be put through this and if she wants to come with you she is more than welcome, if not you will go some were eles.

p.s just be friendly man...you catch more bee's with honey! she prob has a couple mother hens just make friends with them and you will most likley be fine. Whats the worst that can happen? one of her friends says a mean comment to you?

She's enjoying the sex, or she wouldn't keep coming back for more.

Go for the night out, lead the group, DHV yourself straight away, be the fun guy. Then they'll start seeing why she likes you too. That's how you can deal with the cock blocks, if they try to interfere, simply neg the ones who do. " Is she always like this?" Do you have a bf?" if she says yes "Damn he must have a hard time" if she says no" I can see why (laugh and say joke)

If you don't go, I personally think it'll look like you bottled it

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Hey Bucc.

You know, a lot of people would tell you to go for another girl... Im not gonna do that. Reason being, its your FB. You can go for another girl as well, you dont have to choose.

It seems like your FB can take care of herself. She is capable and knows what she wants. Best thing you can do is to reinforce her. Its a thing between you two. Give her confidence enough to keep it going.

Like she tells you:

Hey my firend tried to talk me out of being your FB.

You:
Ha, ha, poor girl. Probably because she has got burned that way or something. Pretty sweet of her to try to protect you though. I promise that if I start being dangerous Im gonna give you five minutes head start.


Treat it like it doesnt matter.

And yeah, the girls are probably gonna try to see who you are and if you are a good guy or a bad guy. And then try to force her into whatever they decide.
So just be a cool nice guy. Dont try to be too emotional with her and dont try to be too cool either. Win them over. Be a pleasant guy to everyone and make friends. Social proof is your friend here.

BTW, dont say shit like "Oh, Im never gonna hurt you." If you need to state that, you are either someone who could potentially hurt her or a loser. It should be obvious to her that you arent gonna hurt her.

Play your great connection.

The way I solved the problem with my (I dont even know how to classify it) was that I told her about my PUA stuff. I told her that yes Im gaming other girls. And if we are gonna have sex its only because we like sex, each other and we are sure that it is no more than sex. And we made the promise that if anyone would start feeling something more, he or she HAS TO tell the other one so we can both solve the problem or deal with the situation together.

That builds trust.

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bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Thanx for the advice guys. And thank you again Ezo for explaining in detail and taking your time for the post.

I already told her about the PUA and self improvement things, and this turn out to be a major comfort builder and DHV to her.

I guess thats why I expect her friends to be hostile. But you gave me the right advice on how to handle this. thanx!

greetz

Buccaneer

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson

Thanx guys once more.

Yesterday was great. The girls complimented my FB with me being a social and fun guy.

One one occasion her friend introduced me to a friend of hers and said "O, this is Buccaneer, mmm... he is the... umm..."appendix" of FB". Then she apologized for not knowing how to refer to me. Haha! Great.

I have a FB and learned how to socially make this comfortable.

thanx guys.

greetz

Bucc.

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson

Im happy it worked out for you man!

Congratulations!!!

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn