| You have a problem opening the set. I just give you a possible solution to the problem.
I do not care if you think that it will get you nowhere, it will. I dont care if you think that you are being unsocial.
We are talking opening here. Thats like 5 seconds.
You said it yourself. You know one of the people, well thats your way in. How can you possible miss that going into a set where you know one person and start talking to the other ones is wierd. That is not the way it works.
Man you got some things you need to fix.
I am not from the US, I am not a teenager.
Anyway, the reason I am even bothering to reply is that I think that you actually could benefit from it.
You dont even seem to know what an opening is.
"Talk talk talk, open"??? What???
The opener is the 2-5 seconds of words that come out of your mouth, before hi.
I think that you may have misunderstood what I am trying to tell you. I did not say, only talk to the guy you know. I was saying, open the guy you know. Thats how you get accepted into the set. That is before talk talk talk.
You go in all too aggressive, you are basically inviting yourself in verbally. That throws the bs up high. It is one thing assuming that you are welcome and a totally different thing to violating their group.
If you have opened the guy you know you say something like. Hey (insert name here) whats up. He will greet you and you are in. You can now start adressing the entire group, as it should be. You start the next sentence talking to the guy, during the sentence you look at the others while talking to include them. The second sentence you can adress the rest directly. Hey Im (insert your own name here) btw.
You clearly have an attitude problem judging both from your reply here and the fact that you go into a set and immediately start bashing other guys for being fags. Come on, that radiates massive amounts of insecurities.
People that have insecurities hide them by bashing others. Not attractive.
I am not telling you this to be mean but because you seem to have misunderstood and this is the fastest way to improve. Unless you identify and accept that you are not perfect and like everybody else have weaknesses and insecurities you wont progress.
Also you need to see how they react, if you get a good response, go for it. If your thread doesnt catch their interest, cut it! Just forget it, start over.
So, social teenage suicide or whatever, you need to take the opening you get. In the real world, this is the way you are introduced into a group, by knowing someone.
In pickup, this is exactly what we do. If you are in a club, why do you think that we open the guys? In order to win him over because he doesnt have a bitch shield and if he accepts us he is the one we "know". Why do you think we open the ugliest girl??? Because we win her over and gain her acceptance. We CREATE people we know. People who says, hey this guy is ok, welcome him.
You already got that for free!
Think!
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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.
bbardot: you just reminded me about porn
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