so i met this girl + her friend in a bar last week and she was big time flirting with me. i played it cool , took her number and texted her later. straight away she sends me two texts saying how much fun she had and how much she hopes we can do it again. she also asks to email her because she doesnt have credit.

so knowing to focus on getting to meet two, we swap a few brief flirty emails. i then ignore her for a day and she emails me THREE TIMES including with this:

"so where and when do you want to meet me? im so excited. know why? cos i really like you "

so i was like damn! but play it cool still!! so i did... i waited another 12 hours and then i called. things go well and i tell her im out with friends on saturday and she should come. she sounds well up for it and 20 mins later she sends:

"sounds really good, just tell me where!"

so i send here a chill but flirty email saying that ill be meeting with friends and she can come along if she likes blah blah, all good PUA stuff.

the day of the meet comes and i get hit with this

"my plans have changed. wont be coming tomorrow, have things to do round here. hope you have a good time"


WTF?! seriously.... i know. come on guys, what do i do???

1) do i completely ignore it and wait for her to get in touch

or

2) do i email back something like 'ok, youre missing out. have a good one'

or

3) your recommendation of something much better!!!!

Maybe her plans really did change and she couldn't make it? I think you're worrying too much, just stay in contact and eventually reschedule your time to meet up again. If she was that keen before, no reason she shouldn't still be keen.

_________________
Flowmentum Dating | FB

thx, probably decent advice. ive foudn this happen a couple of tiems recently. tough to know how to deal with them post-flake. i.e. do you act cool and do nothing and risk them thinking thats ok.... or do you call them on their shit and risk looking like you really care / like it bothered you.

thats the dilemma...

im sorry but are you serious ? your getting wound up over her changing her plans, girls do this all the time ! Theirs probably a few reasons why she "canceled"
a) shes scared , shes meeting up with you and your friends = awkward
b) if she was going to bring a friend a long , she couldn't find one
c) her plans really have changed due to a mater which she doesn't feel comfortable sharing with you

my suggestion just reply with " shame , o well its going to be a good night and your soooooooooo going too miss out on it ! , never mind i will forgive you , if you make me a card saying how sorry you are and how awesome i am haha "

and then just play your game from there
from that point you can arrange a coffee to meet up and get this card she made you . simple !

No need to play any games or use any freeze out techniques man. She already says she likes you. Her reason to flake is probably legit. Just play it cool, try to arrange another meet.

Good advice already given man. No need to go nuts about this. Remember too, that if it turns out that you never hear from her again? You should be just fine. You only want to win her, you don't need to. If she doesn't stay interested, you don't waste your effort keeping at it, you move on to one who will. Always be willing to let them walk away.